Help: Wife's lack of sexual interest

aphead- Welcome to A2K!



You know the answer yourself. One of the symptoms of depression is anhedonia, the absence of pleasure and the ability to experience it.

How is your wife doing in other areas of her life? This might be a time for you to go with her to her psychiatrist, and discuss whether she needs an adjustment in her medications.

Also, many people who suffer from depression, on top of the chemical component of the disease, have problems with dealing with life situations. As soon as she is stabilized on her medication, it might be a good idea for you to find a competent marriage counselor that you can go to together.

I know that it is difficult for you, but remember, when you married her, it was "for better or for worse, in sickness and in health". Good luck![/b]

Good Morning Aphead

I agree with Phoenix. She needs to go and see her Doctor and have her meds re-adjusted. Or have them changed completely..there are a few anti-depressants that do not have that side effect.

I have experienced what an anti-depressant will do to you in that area. It was not pleasurable. My Doctor had put me on one medication that caused mood swings, just to put me on an anti-depressant to counteract the other med...to keep me on an even kil. It took its effect and I couldn't handle it. And trust me, there is no pleasure in sex with that type of medication. It seems you even loose the ability to "feel". And it doesn't matter to the amount of stimulation, it just doesn't happen. And that ads to the depression in itself. Especially if your wife likes sex, that maybe more of a problem than you realize with her.

And you can't stop the anti-depression medication cold turkey. You have to be weaned off of it. So...like Phoenix stated....have her see her doctor, go with her. Have her meds adjusted. And ask the Doctor for one that doesn't have those side effects to it.

I hope things work out.......