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Thu 18 Nov, 2004 01:39 pm
me and my gf have been intimate for about 4 months now...we have been an item for a good 4 years but just recently got serious...all of this intimacy is new for both of us and there hasnt been any problem yet but i want to please her more, how do i move forward with out intimacy without it being uncomfortble...i mean do i wait for her to initiate or do i try to see how far be4 shes uncomfortble...i dont wanna come across as sum1 whos looking for ass cause im not, i love her and i want to make it a more stimulating experience for her now
Practice, practice, practice!
(And don't forget the birth control!)
how do i initiate it though, not sex...we both arent ready for that, weve spoken about it...but fingering, rubbing etc
Talk to her, my man. Show her your feelings before doing the 'feeling'.
So you've made out a couple of times. Is that basically where you're at?
weve done everything, just not anything under the pants, just over so far
Aaah, so it's a matter of getting the clothes off then, without disrupting the flow. Well as long as she's wearing jeans, you just have to reach down and unbutton the damn things. if she's wearing a dress, then you can slide your hand right in there. You have to be bold. Or, if you are afraid you'll bungle it, maybe you could try unbuttoning your own pants first and see if she takes the "bait", so to speak.
im not talking about access lol idk if thats the best word...but what i mean is do you guys think ill ruin the mood if i do it and shes not ready and says no...like what are my options of finding out if she is ready
Oh! Then my answer is NOT to talk about it, and just make a move! Don't worry, she'll let you know when you've gone too far. And it won't ruin anything, I guarantee it. You'll just have to stop and talk about it then. But I say, make the move first. Talking about it first only makes it lose it's spontaneity and makes it awkward.
I think kicky has the answer here. She will let you know what she doesn't want to do. Maybe you are second guessing yourself a bit too much.
yeah, just start doing it and if she freaks, STOP and tell her that when she's ready to let you know, either by doing it back to you or telling you. Which ever is more comfortable. And then go back to making out.
There is nothing more exciting than finding out just how far you can go...
That is the one thing that I miss about single life.
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