Why can't he look at me as much as he looks at porn?

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Sex life where has it gone????

I have been married 10 years and have three children. My husband is great and I love him, but why does he choose to get his kicks from porn instead of me? This is really bothering me. I don't have anything against him looking at porn, the problem is that he no longer is looking at me. We haven't had sex in almost 2 years. We have done the oral thing a few times, but that seems to be the only thing he is remotely interested in. I like oral sex don't get me wrong, but I would also like some good ole get down and dirty sex once in awhile. I tried to get things going one night and it ended up like always oral and nothing else. What should I do? Is this my problem or his? SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!! Crying or Very sad

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Try speaking to a sex therapist, assuming there are none on this site.

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Since his indifference bothers you, you have a problem.

Have you talked with him about what would make you happy in bed?

Is your husband romantic in other ways? Flowers? Candy? Date night?
Backrubs? Taking care of he kids when you need time off?

What would he think about consulting a marriage conselor?

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Yes I have talk to him before about it and he knows how I feel. He chooses to do nothing about it. I'm tierd of it always being about him.

He isn't a very romantic kinda person. He doesn't give backrubs,candy flowers, or nothing else. Although he use to do all those things.

I really dont know what the problem is! I dont know of a man except my husband who doesn't even try to have sex with his wife.

Can it be possible that he enjoys his hand more than me? Is their any men out there that can explain this to me? What is it about the hand job and porn flicks?

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maybe the porn girls look better...have you been taking care of yourself the last ten years......a lot of married women just give up on their appearance and then wonder why their husbands aren't turned on by them.....

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From your descriptions, it sounds as though your whole marriage is a bit stale. How old are the children?

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I still look the same as I did when he married me. I haven't gained any weight or any gray hair. I am 31 years old, 5'3,weigh 110lb and in good shape. Not to mention 10 years younger than him. I don't consider myself knock out gorgeous, but I'm not an old hag either. I turn every other mans head still.

I have 2 girls, one 13 and the other 8. I have a boy that is 10.

I have had plenty of offers from other men that would like to satisfy my needs, but I'm not like that. I love my husband and would not cheat on him.

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If he won't go to counseling with you, go by yourself. You need a sounding board to accompish some self discovery and to make plans for a future that may or may not include him.

Good luck.

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