My husband and I have been together 7 years and married for 1 year. He has a daughter from a previous who is 7 that we have 50% of the time. I have been in her life since she was 5 mos. old and I consider her my daughter.
After discussing all of the details about how we would manage another child, we decided it was time to get pregnant and I did in Jan. only to have a miscarriage two months into pregnancy. I had a strange very saddening feeling that my husband was a little releived and since then I have not discussed trying again and he has not either.
The other night I asked him how he really felt about having another child and he said that kids are a pain in the ass and a burden and that I should be happy just having my step daughter. I almost died!! I asked him what has changed since we tried in Jan and he said nothing and that he just wanted to make me happy. He also said, in the same conversation, that he does not know if he will ever want another child or not.
What am I supposed to do? I am going to be 30 this year and am I supposed to wait around for him until I am 40 only for him to tell me he has made up his mind and does not want any more kids?? We have always talked about having another child together and he had been excited about how he would spend time with he/she and how nice it would be to have a child that did not have to go back and forth during the week. I don't know what to do, I feel that this is a deal breaker but I have my step daughter to consider and I don't want to break her heart by leaving.
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