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Fri 21 Apr, 2017 07:54 pm
Basically I met a guy and we dated for a coupke months. We got slong so well and he made things serious pretty quick. I didnt mind it cuz i liked him so much.
Anyways around the last week or so i started getting a weird vibe of him. Like he is bored of me, or is always pissed off. Or doesnt want something meaningful like i did. Idk how to explain it, the vibe was just weird.
I told him that i want him to be honest with me even of it hurt my feelings and asked him many times if there is somethint wrong. He kept saying no.
Until the weekend before we broke up. He went to visit his family, compeletly ignored me for a few days( even though he is always online) -also let me jist mention that when ever i used to take hours to reply or reply with short texts he gets frustrated and because of that i started putting more effort with texting.
.. so anyways.. i couldnt be silent any longer and told him if he wants break up just tell me. I cant guess it. He said he was busy and he had a situation but he agrees with me. I said what do u mean agree? Is that ur way of a breakup? Ur a jerk goodbye
He was like wow ur mean whatever u have no idea what happnd to me gdbye
I said exactly because u dont communicate with me ur always so silent, i just want to know what we are. And im sorry for whatever happened with u. and that i feel hurt and like im left hanging. He kept dodging my ( what are we?) question and said that he was busy with his family
After a long convo then He said yes were still together and that i made that assumption.
I said ok apology accepted. Anyways im tired of talking about this do whatever feels right. He said ok i agree with u.
Then didnt talk for another two days...
Im not a patient person. and i dont like to be left hanging and since he said ( we still are together) i messaged and said can i call u? He said yes then dissapeared for like 6 hours. Texted him again saying "seriously? I just need to talk for two mints then ill leave u the hell alone" he replied and said "ure doing it again"
So i was like whatever ill just call him. I did. I asked him whats going on snd he said that he was busy, and that im being annoying he didnt mean to hurt me. I said but u came back from ur visit and u barely talked to me and ur acting so weird i think i deserve an explanation. I wana know right now what are we??? Fo u still wanna be with me???
He said "no i cant be with someone whos gonna cause problems with me everyday im not a kid anymore" i was like ok.. was that hard? ( trying to put a brave face on)
He then took it back by saying "look im gonna say stuff that is going to upset you right now because u made m angry, and ure not in a good mood either. So can we please talk later when we both are calm?? Dont be so impatient"
I said sure. Then goodbye.
Its been 5 days since that phonecall.
My question is should i wait for his call?
Should i tell him i am sorry i was aggresive ? ( as a last effort from me)
How can i stop blaming myself? I know for a fact that it is not entirely me but i always blame myselt for stuff.
Please help:(
Thanks
You're desperate acting.
He's busy and getting annoyed with your pestering.
Step back and let him make the next step.