My Husband and Internet Porn

Tell him how his activities make you feel ~ and don't sugarcoat it. Depending on what his reaction is and how adverse you are to his interest in porn, you might try to make it an activity that you both can share.

Ya never know. Could be something you both might end up enjoying!

Thanks but i just want him not to do it when our girls are home and not to make it such a secret can i know even though he thinks i don't. Do you think things he looks at can interfere with reality??

It never ceases to amaze me how, over time, so many website newbies initiate their memberships at the various sites with the very same topic/post.

These individuals rarely, if ever, post again at those sites using the same account.

Is it "ARCHETYPICAL" or just a cliché?

What are you talking about Magus?

Yeah, I wanted to ask the same thing.

Welcome to A2K, KCaus01 Pay no attention to Magus.

Boy, this one does come up a lot, though. If you don't want to wait for answers, you could search the site, you'll come up with tons of advice. You could start by clicking here

If that don't get it, click here.


Meanwhile,
Yes. Absolutely. Porn is for masturbation and if he's that into it, you're lucky to be getting any. On the flip side, if he's that into it, do you really want to be involved that often?

O'Bill ~ we live too close to not have met by now.

I disagree with one point you made ~ that porn is for masturbation. It CAN be, but it can also be something that individuals just care to look at or something that couples can share, enjoy and include in their sex lives.

As far as recurring questions go.....Didn't someone ask about that already? Or was it the time before that? I seem to recall.....No, I'm sure of it.

If the questions are asked, someone will answer. Especially when one is wide awake at 1 a.m. :wink:

"Same ol', same ol'..."

Well, Magus, if you've heard it all before then you have. No big deal.

Life is too short. And there will always be questions to be asked. Ninety percent of the time those questions will have already been asked. Have you never repeated yourself before? :wink:

Better question would be "do you think you've ever been first to say anything?"
I don't get out much Rae, but I don't plan to miss the next A2K gathering. I'm still a little bummed I missed the last one.

Well that is certainly hopefull! You don't need a gathering to come visit though, Bill!

You have to talk to him about this!
You're in a tough situation...but one thing is certain, you have to talk to your husband about his online habits. I don't know how you feel...so here are a few guesses: you may be feeling insecure and unwanted, unloved...you may be wondering why you aren't good enough...why does he have to spend his time online looking at skanky women...also you might resent him because his online addiction is hurting your family...it's not much of a marriage when your hubby comes home, eats, and starts to clickety clack on the keyboard.

You really have to confront him on the issue...don't chew him out and don't talk his head off...we as women tend to yap on and on until the opposite sex is looking for a noose to hang himself with...You need to sit him down and tell him what you know...he's been looking at porn. Tell him how it makes you feel. See what he has to say...I know that a lot of times men don't really understand why women have problems with porn...so it's up to you to try to make him understand. I would say that if he really cares about your feelings he will stop.

I used to date a bonehead way back when who loved to watch porn. He would borrow dvd's from coworkers, etc. etc. I told him how I felt and he said he would stop...well lo and behold I found out later that the slug was still watching porn and going to strip clubs...well I broke his tapes with my bare hands...hell yeah!...and got hopping mad....I also kicked his ass to the curb...

Hi Guys, I did as Rae said and confronted him about it he said that most of the porn comes up we he enters certain sight ( which i do believe - to an extent) he also said that he has been having erection problems (which i never knew) and he has been popping viagra tablets.

He never told me because i would worry & probably blame myself (which is what i did) anyway he said to help stimulate himself he would look on porn sights but it never really did anything and has stocked up on viagra.

So thanks for the advice and i apologise he repeating the same question as previously shown in this forum.

KC

Any new people who post sincerely here probably don't know that there have been a series of these questions, which people have spent a bunch of time answering sincerely back, with many different points of view.

We don't mean to be rude to new posters, who find a2k from some other site reference, but we're just a bunch of people here suddenly getting a lot of questions on this.

As you can tell if you read the past porn related topics in the Relationships and Marriage forum, we have varying, very varying, points of view.

It could save time if people read the older questions first, for background.

We're all still glad to talk, I think, and new posters are very welcome.





If you look at my signature, I have one point of view, but there are lots of folks posting here who want porn out of their relationships entirely. For a wider view, read the related topics on the forum. For a wider view of the whole a2k site, look around. We are about equally divided and certainly vocal about many issues.