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Quote:As it started to get closer to the end of the summer, no job would hire me because I was going to be getting married in July and no one could garuntee time off for a honeymoon so shortly after I had been hired. My husband (fiance at the time) started to get really frustrated with me and money started to become more of an issue. He started to call me a dead beat telling me that all I did was sit around the house and do nothing which wasn't true.
I scrambled to find any job that I could to please him. It had been 6 months since I had had a job and he had been working full time over the summer to support us.
When money is tight, it puts an enormous strain on the relationship when one of the spouses is unemployed. I don't think it was appropriate for your fiance (now husband) to call you a "dead beat" because name-calling is hurtful. On the other hand, if money was an issue, the two of you should have agreed to postpone your honeymoon in order to eliminate the barrier to your employment.
That is the past. You can't do anything about the past. You are married now. The honeymoon is no longer a barrier. After 6 months of unemployment, you found a job. You worked a week and a half, but you were fired today. Here's what you said:
Quote:So I got fired today. I have been in the job for a week and a half and I got screwed out of my job. My supervisor told me yesturday that I could have the rest of the day off because things were going slow. She talked to my manager and my manager said no problem. Apparently my manager thought it was my idea to have the rest of the day off and told me that that was unacceptable and fired me. Even though I tried to tell her what my supervisor told me to do, she didn't believe me and fired me anyway.
Thats the second time that I have been screwed out of a job. The first time was when I was working as a receptionist in a law firm. Big mistake. One of the lawyers decided he didn't like the way I answerd the phone so he told my boss a whole bunch of bad things about me behind my back and I got fired the next day.
Is it just me or does the world hate me? Is this a sign that I should just not be a receptionist or what? I have to have a job but how do I get a job and be happy at the same time, and most importantly, keep it?
From your own experience, you know you went on multiple job interviews over a period of 6 months and that you were repeatedly rejected. You held your receptionist job at the vet clinic for less than two weeks. You were also fired from your receptionist job at the law office. Obviously, there is something amiss in the manner in which you present yourself or conduct yourself on the job.
You weren't screwed out of either job. Although you have been fired twice, it serves little purpose to place the blame on your employer and claim that you were screwed. As difficult as it may be, you need to engage in serious self-assessment. You must evaluate the manner in which you present yourself to others.
The world does not hate you. The world doesn't owe you anything and it is not depriving you of anything you're entitled to have. Your former employers do not owe you anything either. Your employers are in business for profit and they will only keep you and pay you wages so long as you remain an asset to their businesses.
How can you present yourself as an ASSET to a potential employer? You must develop a strong work ethic. You must continuously keep busy and consistently give your employer value in exchange for the wages paid to you. You must present yourself as competent, loyal, and eager to put in a fair day's work for a fair day's pay.
Apparently, your last employer did not see these essential qualities in you. Your employer determined that you really didn't want to be there, but you were only putting in whatever necessary time you had to invest to collect a paycheck. Maybe that's not the impression you thought you were making, but that's the impression your employer had and the one that prompted the decision to fire you.
Tomorrow and over the weekend, spend as much time online or in the library and research and learn about interviewing techniques and employer expectations. Give yourself an honest assessment and figure out what YOU need to do to sell yourself better at job interviews and how to keep a job once you've been employed. Reenter the job market on Monday morning with a renewed sense of self and vigor. Maintain a positive attitude. Don't tell prospective employers what you can't do for them (I can't work these hours; I can't work these days, etc.)--tell them what you CAN do for them (I can be flexible; I can change my school schedule to fit YOUR needs, etc.)
You can do it! You can get a job, you can keep a job, and you can be happy!
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