How do you respond to sex with you husband after no sex ?

What about those Titans??

Cryptic question.
Your question is far too ambiguous for anyone to provide any meaningful feedback. Are you simply out of practice? How long have you been married? Do you have children? Are you and your husband emotionally disconnected? When and under what circumstances did you stop sexual intimacy? Are you trying to rekindle the relationship?

Why don't you draft 2 or 3 short paragraphs describing your situation and then ask for advice or opinions.

Re: Cryptic question.
My husband and I have not had sex for 8 months because of his porn and blood pressure meds, bottom line. We had wonderful sex until then. Now I find it extremely uncomfortable trying to rekindle our romance. I am hurt and disgusted.
I'm 53 yrs. old and very sexual. I won't give that up for anyone! I feel there are no answers, and yes I have talked to him about us with no ans
wer.
It disgusts me that I feel I've been replaced with Lesbian flicks!!!
Mar

I have found that if I swim very very fast, once I have reached about the mile mark, I can make myself orgasm just by the undulation of the water. Self-care is a top priority. Do that, or masterbate, or whatever it takes to take care of your own needs while you work on the big picture.

I would also suggest you try counselling to work on your disgust issue...

Another thing I would do, if I were in your place, I would find a massage therapist who does deep tissue emotional release work (it's a special technique- ask therapists in your area if they do that work by name.) It can really help to heal you when you hold issues internally and they are manifesting themselves unpleasantly for you.

I have found that if I masturbate slowly, I reach an orgasm in the time it takes princesspupule to swim a mile......

I have found that if I swim slowly and masturbate at the same time all the fish in the area float to the surface.

Q: What is the height of conceit?

A: Gus floating on his back masturbating yelling "Open the drawbridge"

I think I would be more likely to yell, "Get away you stupid friggin' seagull! That ain't no french fry!!"

Mary Anne--

Aren't the fun-loving boyos charming and witty? Someone left the cages open.

Is there any relationship between the porn and the blood pressure medication? Which came first? The blood pressure medication is
very unromantic--the male organ needs lots of blood pressure--the male heart does not.

Perhaps Gus and BPB could use a few doses?

Is your husband concerned about the situation?

Nicely handled Noddy...just drop the gloves in the incinerator...

my heart is fine noddy as is my disposition...maybe you should try some :wink:

Bear, have a heart. Behave.

I see, pricesspupules response about moving water making her come is a serious response...but when the boys pick up on the sophmoric remarks we're babies or something.....I'm holding my breath until I turn blue....

Hi Mary Anne-

When I first read your question, I had to reread it a few times to get to the point of knowing what you were asking. Forgive me for my flip answer. As for your "problem", I think it is time for some face to face, heart to heart communication with your husband. I find it admirable that you are so open about your needs and desires, and are not resigning yourself to letting that part of your soul wither away.

It is important for you to keep that aspect of your life alive and healthy. The question at this point is if you want your mate to figure in the equation, or if you have reached a point of no return with him. Being in a situation with someone who gives little or no feedback is terribly frustrating, and that sounds like your situation. If you still love your husband, and are willing to put forth the effort to get to the point of understanding WHY your husband chooses porn over a healthy sexual wife, who is willing and able to give herself to him of her own free will, will take the expertise of a professional. I think that your husband's desire to look at "lesbian porn" honestly has nothing to do with you at all. People, both men and women, are sexual creatures, and he is satisfying an urge. His inability to maintain an erection may have him nervous about approaching you, for fear of failure. Be gentle and understanding, and seek professional advice.

Keep us posted.

The inability to get and/or maintain an erection is a huge side effect of some blood pressure medications. Since don't know which came first, the desire for more porn in his life or his inability to perform, I'm going to take a stab in the dark and guess his porn viewing increased sometime after he started his blood pressure meds?

I can only suggest what I might do if I were in your position...first I would ask him to see his medical doctor (the one who gave him the blood pressure meds) to talk about an alternative medication or a dosage adjustment that might allow him to regain some of his...hmmmm....ability.

Secondly, I would convey to him your understanding of his situation but let him know that you still have desires and needs that you would love to have fulfilled by him. Sex in itself does not have to involve penetration, but if he is caring and wants to see you happy, there are many ways he can please you besides the customary.

Thirdly, if he is willing, I would suggest some couples counseling. He may feel emasculated by his inability to perform and very afraid of failing you if he tries. Sometimes it seems easier to play ostrich and bury our heads in the sand, pretending a problem doesn't exist rather than face it head on and find a solution. He may be using his porn as a form of escape to avoid disappointing you, when in reality, it is compounding the problem.

As in any relationship, communication is paramount. On very sensitive subjects though, it is often times so hard to know where to begin...

I wish you all the luck in the world, friend. ...

My husband goes long time with no sex. He gets deployed, lol, and the last deployment was four months. So no sex and beer for him.

As for you, well, as long as you are both happy in the relationship, its okay to lag in sex a little. Maybe his libido is down, or yours...but you can always go to those kinky little shops and get fun stuff. I'm not into porn at all, never was and never will be, but it might work for you guys

Also, buy something sexy from victorias secret, make him a nice dinner, get some champagne and put rose petals on the bed, candles, you know

and wear a sexy perfume

see if he can resist you then