eoe wrote:First, she knows how strongly you feel about this, you two have been down this road before so she's way off base bringing it into your lives again. As a woman, I couldn't imagine being with a man who was cool with me stripping for others. Maybe it's an old fashioned attitude but...
She can't find a job? And stressing about it to such a point when you do okay enough, for now, for the both of you? Well, she needs to find something to do. There's alot to do between boredom and stripping. What are her interests? How about school?
Tell her she can strip for you every night if she likes. Put a pole up in your bedroom if it means that much to her but, as it's been said already, STICK TO YOUR GUNS.
I don't see her as wrong as bringing it up again. Like I said, I'm willing to re-analyze my thought on past issues. But they way she brought it up & pushed it, and the fact that she said she was doing it regardless of what I thought & walking out the doing, only to recant her statement later after she had walked out the door was insane.
She already went to school. She loved interior design in high school. Last January she got the itch to go to college for it. I knew she loved it so I encouraged her and told her I would help out any way I could.
The college is 180 miles in downtown Minneapolis. So, she would have to move down there, and I couldn't leave my job (family business, my fathers priming me to take over soon), so I had to stay put.
SHe took all of her stuff, everyone helped her move, we got her and our kid set and she went of to school.
I came down every weekend I could to see them and to give her some money.
After awhile she realized she didn't put enough thought into planning everything, couldn't pay all the bills, couldn't juggle college & her job down there, she didn't realize she had to take a bunch of general classes that didn't have anything to do w/ interior design, she lived in a horrible apartment building in a bad area and she wanted to comeback, which she did. She's been back since May.
I could go on and on about since then, but I'll keep this short.
I find it hard for her to believe I don't trust her when I encouraged her to move to the cities to go to school. AND, live only a few miles from her EX who is the bilogical father of our kid.
She actually got pregnant by him about 2 weeks after we had seperated about 4 years ago. It was a fling. They were together a total of 30 days until her & I got back together... Now I get to raise his kid (he's a great kid though, you couldn't help not to love him).
I even told her I would love her kid - as my own, & I have as stated above, and she finds it hard to trust me (I'm getting myself angry now).
My God, the more & more I share, the more I think I am absolutly crazy for continuing to do this any longer.