Thu 24 Nov, 2016 08:48 am
We live in a big student house. We have one housemate who is very scary and we don't speak to him. He smells terrible. Really terrible. We are worried for his health but we are too scared to talk to him about it because a) he's scary and b) it's awkward. He does not ever wash. He smells off sweat and poos.
We have considered balancing a bucket of soapy water over a doorframe but it is arguably unethical. What can we do?
I am guessing he comes from a place that has different takes on the matter of hygiene.
You band together to ostrasize him. Poor guy. You are the scary ones.
Nearly choked with laughter !
Engage the man in non confrontational conversation. See if you have common ground. See if he can be talked to. If you can build any empathy at all, suggest to him after a time (minutes, hours, days?) that he is subjecting you to his bad smells by not bathing. He just may be a bit more approachable if you don't ignore him.
That's true; bad smells can become invisible to the person who lives in it too long and become accustomed to it.