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Sat 29 Oct, 2016 10:30 pm
i've been dating for 1 year and a half and i love my bf. we've been living together in a rented small room. because of this stupid arguing between us, he decided to move to his mother's house, which is not far from where i live, for about 2 weeks ago. he also started working. he complained of me getting suspicious of him, more than once, and he says im not right in my thinking..but i think he exagerated, cause he decided to stay at his mother's place and he says that he prefers to stay there for awhile. i just drive him to his work daily in the morning and thats it. we are briefly together. he says that we need to gather money first, to move to a better place , with privacy which we lack in my room. i agree with his view..but i think its bad for our relationship. we were together as a couple and now it feels strange, as im afraid our connection is getting weaker with this "distance"...his mother didnt accept me, although i always been a good person to her, and when i call him, he talks in a low voice so that she cant hear....i think its ridiculous and makes me sad...i feel he's kind of tired of me. i feel he is monotonous, lacking passion talking to me. his excuse is that hes just tired of his work, wants to sleep , and for his mother dont listen as well....i called him tonight, saturday, from my job, dinner time.he was at home relaxing, he said. he just asked at what time i would leave job, i said i would call him up or if he wanted to be the first calling me, after i leaved at 2 am, just to say good night at least, but he didnt answered my calls...he could be sleeping, but im not sure, cause usually he goes out at night (we would meet then), so...my heart and mind feels so sad and i dont know what to think. would you be angry, or worried because he didnt pick up the phone? do u feel its unaceptable and it doesnt show love...or do u think its no big deal and i should relax?
@Sarah12t,
He went home to mother, and he says that the two of you need to gather money first, to move to a better place, not to mention he seems uninterested. Maybe you need more clues, but I don't see him as being the one for you - unless you are really desperate.
@roger,
we have very hard economic problems...just recently he started working. he exploded because i asked why he added some girl in his fb. he said that i dont trust him, that he does everything to please me and i just get suspicious every now and then...but i think its not right to not answer the phone on a saturday night. and it was not very late.
What is HE doing for you two to get a place?
He sounds like he is not that interested in this relationship. He uses you for a ride. He has no money. He's a mama's boy. Why would you even want him?
@PUNKEY,
he says, since he started working now, the goal is to spare money for a place for us. i work at night. i can be home at about 3 am.but i have nights off...maybe he resents that?yesterday we had dinner together,we been together in the afternoon, he slept with me, in my room, as we used to. he was sweet..(i never made a copy of the key of my room to give him, we used to divide it)
But now, the next day, i went to work and we just talked in the morning after i drove him work, and to my shock, he had his cell phones disconnected when i called him dinner time. i cant believe his answers will be "i was sleeping". i understand he has to get up very early in the morning, but its no excuse.he's he f...cheatin?why hes not giving value to his girlfriend? what can i say to him?
@Sarah12t,
If he has to get up early, then why do you begrudge him his sleep time?
You two are not on the same schedule, and you are angry at him for not answering phone calls when YOU want.
If you are so upset that this guy is not answering, then arrange for a specific time to talk.
I see nothing in your post that indicates he is cheating on you. Just adding a girl on FB is not enough to assume there is something going on. Is he supposed to never talk to another female, ever?
Do you have ANYTHING else to make you think he is cheating?
I don't think so. I think you are upset because he shows little interest in a future with you, except to come over and have sex with you.
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