When friends with benefits becomes marriage

Man, this is 0 to 60!

I still don't understand how people go from let's **** on occasion to I love you without getting to know each other in the meantime. And this one skipped the I love you part anyway.

Here are your choices:

1. End it completely. If you're going to do this, then do it ASAP and don't dick her around. It's cruel.
   
2. Tell her you want to date and romance between the FWB and fiancé stage. And then do it. Go out to dinner or a movie or the like. Spend some money and some time out of bed. Don't be an FWB. Be a boyfriend.
   
3. Try to go back to FWB. Prepare for it to end.
   
4. Tell her you are fine in your current situation and don't want to get married after all. Prepare for it to end.
   
5. Do nothing and dick her around for a year or however long it takes her to wake up and smell the coffee. Watch it end.

So! You don't have a lot of choices and most of them don't go in a happy direction. And the last one is really just a nasty version of the first.

Essentially, she has told you to **** or get off the pot. I highly doubt you can successfully return to the status quo.

Do a L-O-N-G engagement.

You need to get to know this gal. You just know one part of her that works - that not enough to base a marriage!

If I were in this situation I would end it. I would end it quickly, I would meet in person... be direct and straightforward that I was very sorry, and I didn't want to hurt her and that I felt things were going in a bad directly. I would then break off all contact (for at least 3 months).

Breaking up is a part of life. It sucks, but it happens all the time. The best way to do it is to do it completely with no games and no uncertainty. It hurts, but we all get over it.

As I see it, the only other possible solution would be call off the marriage and say you want to date for a while. I would only do this if I was serious; meaning I had real feelings for her and was willing to work to build the relationship.

Either way you have to be honest and direct. Anything else is dishonest and cruel.