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Boyfriend masterbates a lot.

 
 
Reply Sun 7 Aug, 2016 05:26 pm
Hi! I think I should begin this by saying my boyfriend and I have an excellent relationship. He is my very best friend and I love him with all my heart. However something has been weighing on my mind and it's really bugging me. I need to figure out how to get through to him or how to get over the fact that I absolutely hate the fact that he masterbates all the time. I will come home from work and want to crawl into bed (he's already gone to work at this point, I'm alone) and I lay down in a wet cum stain where he jacked off that morning. This happens all the freaking time. I am very hyper sexual and I'm always down for sex. It seems as though almost every single morning he wakes up and jacks off and then doesn't have any energy for me when we have time together at night. But I feel like my feelings are getting out of hand with this. I get anxiety over it and I really let it upset me that he would choose to masterbate and not wait to share a sexual experience with me. Deep down I realize that it's probably not anything against me. But I feel very betrayed and disgusted and upset everytime he leaves behind evidence that he jacked off. I've approached him about this several times, and at first I would get mad at him for doing it in the first place. However I've come to accept that I should not be asking that of him. I can't try and control him in such a way. But even if he always will do it no matter what, I don't want to have to know when he does. He always leaves behind stains and I have to see them when I make the bed, lay in them because they're always on the side I sleep on. I have now began asking him if he could do it in a way that would be more discreet. I've suggested him doing it in the shower or maybe using a tissue or something. But all he does is deny that he even jacks off in the first place and gets really mad that I even bring it up. And since he does that, it has an extremely negative effect on me. It makes me not horny for him anymore. It's a huge turn off. It makes me want to get my vibrator out (that by the way I only use when my boyfriend is out of town or if I'm out of town), and start using it a lot. I feel sexually disconnected to him. I don't know what to do
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Sun 7 Aug, 2016 05:45 pm
@Kitty0116,
Ya just can't make this stuff up - or can you?
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Glennn
 
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Reply Sun 7 Aug, 2016 07:18 pm
@Kitty0116,
Seriously, there is nothing you can do about it. You've let him know that it bothers you, and all he does is deny doing it despite the loads of evidence. It does point to a problem since it is causing your sex life to suffer. Don't know how long you've been living with him, or how old he is, but maybe it's just a phase he's going through.

Non seriously, you can start dealing with this problem by first doing something about his blatant denial of the obvious. This can be accomplished by setting a trap. Watch him from a hidden location and catch him in the act. And just when he's ready to bring his private session to an exciting conclusion, you jump out from the closet swinging a machete wildly as you step quickly toward the bed. This will put him in a state of shock, and he will experience no happy conclusion to his private session. From then on, he will not be able to please himself in your house because anxiety is an incredible mood-killer. His fear will cause him to never be quite sure if you're going to make a surprise entrance during his private session with himself. Then, the only time he'll feel safe having any kind of sex is when he's having sex with you because you're the only person who presents the threat of a machete attack, and as long as you're in bed with him, he won't feel that threat. But leave the machete on the dresser across the room well out of your reach and where he can see it.

Another method that might interest you is to turn the sheet around so that the remnants of his private session with himself will be on his side of the bed. You might even add to it, using a mixture of mayonnaise and egg-whites to make sure it's a really disgusting experience for him.

I don't know if you're bigger than him or not. If you are, consider grabbing him by the back of the neck and marching him roughly to the bed, and then rub his nose in it. It works with puppies and babies. It might work with him.
tony5732
 
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Reply Mon 8 Aug, 2016 12:44 pm
@Glennn,
LMAO
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tony5732
 
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Reply Mon 8 Aug, 2016 12:52 pm
@Kitty0116,
Try kinky sex. Watch porn with him and have sex during. Be that fantasy. I made that mistake and didn't really appreciate one of my exs that was a freak. It's probably not that he doesn't love you, he's just an idiot. I would kill for a girl that would give me what I want when I want it because porn lost it's touch, and finding a girl that's as much about the sex as me is very rare.
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contrex
 
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Reply Mon 8 Aug, 2016 03:45 pm
Dump this guy who is literally a jerkwad. You would if he **** the bed and left it for you to find, why is cold jism any different? He doesn't care about your feelings, and would rather bash the bishop than **** you. Plus he lies. Let him go.
tony5732
 
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Reply Tue 9 Aug, 2016 03:04 pm
@contrex,
See I disagree with that. The porn addiction thing is a real problem. Like alcoholism or drug addiction. It's part of the creature and usually gets better after some growing up.
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kumaramit
 
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Reply Tue 23 Aug, 2016 06:09 am
@Kitty0116,
This is a serious problem of your boyfriend if he had girlfriend like you who is very hyper sexual then there will be no need of masturbate discuss with your partner or consult any sex specialist .
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clueless7321
 
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Reply Tue 30 Aug, 2016 07:48 pm
@Kitty0116,
Get a vibrator, and use it all the time.. See how it makes him feel... Im stubborn, you might not want to take my advice..lol.
Fest1985
 
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Reply Sun 4 Sep, 2016 08:01 pm
@clueless7321,
I think you can only tell him that it is not good both for us and he should leave it to live with you.
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daws8080
 
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Reply Thu 8 Sep, 2016 03:26 am
probably you would like to do sex several times not think a guy 100% satisfied masturbates
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High Strangeness
 
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Reply Sat 10 Sep, 2016 07:22 pm
@Kitty0116,
said- "It makes me want to get my vibrator out..and start using it a lot...I don't know what to do"
------------------------------------------------------------

Stock up on batteries.
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High Strangeness
 
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Reply Thu 15 Sep, 2016 08:22 am
@Kitty0116,
Quote:
..I absolutely hate the fact that he masterbates all the time..


Who does he masturbate?
Eliusa
 
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Reply Thu 15 Sep, 2016 04:17 pm
@High Strangeness,
baby, he has some issues.
If you can't get him to tell you what is it - get your stuff and go.
Are you supporting him financially?
If he has no worries in the world about paying bills what else is he supposed to do?
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Eliusa
 
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Reply Thu 15 Sep, 2016 04:20 pm
@Glennn,
HA! HA! HA! hahahahaha
Men needs JOB!
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Eliusa
 
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Reply Thu 15 Sep, 2016 04:22 pm
@Kitty0116,
Just take off from work and catch him and come to to the play!
Masturbate together...just a thought...
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High Strangeness
 
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Reply Fri 16 Sep, 2016 06:01 pm
@Kitty0116,
Quote:
I really let it upset me that he would choose to masterbate and not wait to share a sexual experience with me.
I lay down in a wet cum stain where he jacked off that morning...But all he does is deny that he even jacks off in the first place

1-Take it as a compliment, he probably loves you so much that he can't wait for you to get home, so in the meantime he has to play with himself while visualising you in his mind's eye wearing a Wonder Woman outfit or whatever..Smile
2- Alternatively is he into home decoration? Perhaps spots of wallpaper paste splashed onto the bed?
Eliusa
 
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Reply Sat 17 Sep, 2016 06:08 am
@High Strangeness,
Yeah...maybe paste but he just afraid to admit and saying he jerked off instead.
Lol
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Iouman
 
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Reply Wed 22 Feb, 2017 01:37 pm
@Kitty0116,
Looks like your "Sex Schedule" is off. He's in the mood at a certain part of the day and you're in the mood at a different part of the day. He might be an early riser, and you might need to get him in the morning. I'm on a morning "Schedule" myself of late.
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Filip76
 
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Reply Wed 29 Mar, 2017 10:31 am
@Kitty0116,
Tell him to get it straight whether he quits cumming on your side of bed or u gonna use a vibrator and squirt all over the house. (joke)
Seriously, try to see each other eye to eye. Find the right words to explain that what de does really pissed u off. If he hasnt lost his last pieces of brain he would somehow try reach your point. Im sure u two can work it out
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