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Im 17 and am in a situation I never would have imagined myself beeing in. Im friends with a girl from my school for about 4 years now but never had anything resembling a close/real relationship.
She has a boyfirend for roughly 3 months now and recently Ive noticed cracks in said relationship.
And for a few days now, shes been sending me messages telling me how she feels like the luckiest person on the planet in the morning and unbelievably sad in the evening without knowing why.
Upon asking her why she feels so sad she said that she keeps thinking about me and really misses me in her life. Even has feelings for me.
Now I feel like im the reason their relationship is falling appart.
I dont want any gain from this. All I want is for her to be happy.
And I hope you can see how clueless I am when I have to resort to taking advice from strangers on the internet. Im sure Ive explained it really poorly but its the best I can do.

So what do you think? What would you do in my situation?

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@HartzVer,

Get yourself out of that triangle. It's not worth the effort.
You're still young, and you will meet many people between now and when you think you wish to marry.
Some times, what seems like a bad thing when you experience it can actually be a learning experience, and turn out later in life that it was really a good thing.
That happened to me. I met a girl when I was in the military, and when I got orders to ship overseas, I promised to marry her when I returned. When I returned, she was living with another man.

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@HartzVer,

If I were in your situation, much like CI suggested, I would run in the other direction, fast.

Don't be a part of this. These things don't end well.

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pick one or more to describe your "friend"

drama queen
whiner
manipulator
depressed
attention seeker
bored
teaser
user

Stay OUT of this triangle. You will be the loser,

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@HartzVer,

Kudos to you for wanting the best for this friend of yours. That is what love always wants.

The question is - What is the best thing for your friend.

It might be to 'fix' what is wrong with the relationship with her boyfriend and go on with him.

Or, it might be best for that relationship to end.

And It is possible that a relationship with you (if that is what you both want) might be best for her.

Society is full of 'rules' concerning the situation you are in. Most of them are wrong.

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@cicerone imposter,

Getting out wont be easy since I see her basically every day. But I think youre right.

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@PUNKEY,

I dont think she is any of those. But attention seeker would be the closest in that list.

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@Leadfoot,

The problem is the following: I dont want to be the reason theyre relationship fell appart. And I have a very strong suspicion that im the problem here because that texts shes been sending me are all along the line of "I love my boyfriend so much and he deserves 100% of my love, but I cant give him 100% because of you."
Not exactly like that but I hope you know what I mean. It seems to me that Im the problem here.

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@HartzVer,

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The problem is the following: I dont want to be the reason theyre relationship fell appart.

I don't think someone else is ever the reason a couple breaks up.

Your responsibility here is not to encourage their breakup in any way. If your mere existence is a problem for their relationship, there is a big problem with it anyway.

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