PamO. wrote:he's a SELFISH COWARD. i'm sorry you ever met him. he knew exactly what he was doing all along. i hope you forget him and i hope the other gal does too. move on, hon.
Oh I want to move on more than anything. The really sad thing is I really loved this guy. A guy that I used to be friends with (and had no idea that I was going out with my former b/f for 4 months until I told him) that knows my former b/f confirmed that he does have a gf (so it's not just from the woman's mouth). He told me that this lady has an awful attitude and is very possessive (which is why I really can't believe it took her 4 months to discover his cheating ways). My former b/f works hard at his job but financially struggles. This guy told me that this woman supports him for the most part...I guess a small, very generous part of me feels sorry for him despite the fact that he lied to me because my friend said that he does not seem to really love this woman. And it is sad that he cannot break free from her because of his financial difficulties. I think in the end he really loved me but the relationship was doomed from the beginning because of his past.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to make excuses for him. He should have never asked me out in the first place and stayed with me for 4 months, knowing deep down that we could never be together.
One time he told me "I dreamed that we were married. Then I woke up and I'm like "Oh my god." I look at that comment differently now as apparently he had this dream about being married to me, then woke up and saw his woman and realized everything between us would always be just a fantasy.
Boy oh boy. Noddy you are so right in that at least this was a great learning experience for me. I am only 20 years old but this was the first time I had felt so much love for another man. Oh well, more heartbreak and joy are around the corner.