What is he doing?

I am going to try and make this as short as possible but, there is a lot to it so I don't know that I can. I was married for several years and towards the end of the marriage, my ex became an alcoholic and was very verbally abusive. I went from being a very confident individual to feeling like I was nothing. I finally had enough and filed for divorce. I still had a negative opinion of myself after all was done but continued on with my life and my children. I met a guy on social media through mutual shared interests and we started chatting every night over sports etc. It was nothing sexual, just two people who shared common interests. We lived thousands of miles apart so there were no thoughts of more at first. After about 3 months, we started to really like each other and began to flirt a little but, didn't see it going anywhere because of the distance. He was mid 30's, had never been married and no kids and I was a year older, had been married for several years and had 3 kids and although we had shared interests just never though about taking it to another level until. We both started dating other people and our talks weren't as often but, we still touched base and sought each other out for advice, a laugh, or just to talk occasionally. My children and I moved in the midst of all this over 700 miles away but, still over 300 miles away from him. I didn't tell him about the move because we had lost touch other than a post on FB here and there and he seemed happy with the girl he was dating. A few months passed after I moved and then I heard from him one night with a message on FB asking how I was doing. We chatted for a while and then began to text and he relayed to me that he and the girl had broken up a few months before and then told me that he broke it off because he has moved for a new job. I congratulated him on the job and asked where he moved to and not only had he moved to the same city I was in, without knowing but he was only 5 miles away. We built up a friendship over the next few months as he traveled for work and was often gone for long periods of time and it started to feel like more than friends. We talked on the phone for hours and texted all day long. We laughed, we flirted and we shared personal things with each other that we didn't share with just anyone. I was keeping something from him and was scared to tell him for fear it would ruin everything but knew I had to come clean. I am not going into details on that but it was a lie basically that I should have came clean about before. We met and I told him everything about the lie and he was upset but, he still talked to me and we hung out the entire evening. As time went on we had a sexual relationship but he ended it stating he couldn't get over me lying. A year passed and nothing and then we ran into each other and like an idiot with no self esteem, I fell back into a friends with benefits situation but, in his defense I knew what it was going in. I thought, as most girls with low self esteem that if we hung out and he saw how great it could be, then we could possibly be more. That ended as soon as he met someone as you can guess because, I was just a good time until something better came along. He dated the other girl for almost a year and I decided to take that time and focus on me and getting my old self back. I did just that. I not only got my self confidence back, it is better than it ever was and I got in the best shape of my life!!!!I joined a dating site and started meeting and going out with guys and feeling some better about how things ended with him. About three months after they broke up, he must have joined the site also and it matched us up. He sent a screenshot to my phone of my profile where we had been matched and I just laughed it off with a reply of, "haha". We text a few times and he asked me how I had been. He finally told me how much lying to him had hurt him because he really saw a future there and how he was glad that was becoming a thing of the past. He asked me to hang out but there was some sexual innuendo so I declined. If I knew he was truly interested in being my friend or potentially wanting to try a relationship, I might go down that road and hang out but, I refuse to sleep with him and be used. I am not the girl with no self love anymore! I finally flat out told him that friends with benefits was off the table and he said he understood and was proud of me but, that he still wanted to just hang out and be cool. I turned him down to hang out several times because I had other plans and then he just stopped texting and asking altogether. He still looks at my profile and will like my pics but doesn't text, email or call. Is he toying with my emotions to see if he still has an effect on me, is he reaching out and liking pics etc to see if I will reach out to him or is he trying to reach out without having to admit he misses me too? We had so much fun together and I know he cares or cared for me at one time but he is very stubborn and prideful. I never felt the way I feel about him and I miss it so much. Others I have dated are constantly getting compared and I know it isn't right but, I can't help wanting to feel the way he made me feel!