Thu 21 Jul, 2016 11:48 am
Hi everyone, this is my first post. I work with a shy guy. I have worked with him for 4 months. He is very quiet in general! I have had a lot of eye contact with him and he has brushes his hand against mine, stood close behind me,etc. Another co worker who is his friend has asked me if I am single and commented on the eye contact. He is friendly one to one with me and we get along well when we talk.
I though it seemed like we could get on well with each other. Now, however, I am not sure he ever liked me. He is hard to read but he seems to have developed a close friendship with my married good friend. He is always talking to her and telling her about his life, etc. He has asked her about me in passing, how long have we known each other, etc. When out at dinner the other night he seemed to talk to her a lot so I talked to other people as they seemed so close.
This is what confuses me. He seems to talk to her and like her more but she is married and quite a bit younger than him - 24 which he said would be too young whereas I am his age - in our early 30s.
Its all very confusing and i'm not sure how to approach him. I'm not sure If he likes my friend (it won't lead anywhere) or me? I obviously do not want to waste my time. I am just really confused by his mixed messages.
Any thoughts. Shy guys out there?
You have had no "messages", mixed or otherwise, except in your imagination. Until he comes up to you and asks for a date, this is all embarrassingly hypothetical. Unless you have no dignity or self respect, do not wait around for this guy to do something.
He may like you but right now he is more comfortable with this other gal. why? Maybe because she's no threat because she's married. OR he's trying to make a move on her. It's hard to tell from what u have written.
If you think there's something more going on between YOU TWO then make a move. Ask him for coffee, lunch or something.
If he is not interested then you will find out.
On the other hand, romances at work can result in poor situations, can be stupid in the first place. Not always, but caution can be smart.
Yeah, it's never happened that someone is too shy to talk to someone they are attracted to, and opt to try to get closer via a friend of said party.
Why don't you ask him out for coffee or something?
It's difficutlt to be the guy always having to read the womans cues, muster up the courage to do the asking, etc. etc.