My name is jenna and I have dilemma and I am afraid it is going to ruin my relationship. My fiance and i have been together for 5 years and we have 3 children 2 from my previous relationship and 1 with him. We are getting married in March and we love each other very much. He has taken on the role as the father of my first 2 children. They were very small when we met and they call him daddy. They love him like a father. He loves them the same. I think this is very hard to come by and I feel blessed. I am able to stay home with my kids right now while he works to provide for us. We are both honest and faithful to each other. And when he isnt working we are always together. We never go anywhere apart. We do everything as afamily and this is what I have always wanted. Now here is the problem, I have no sex drive
. None at all. And he has the most active libido of anyone I have ever known. He wants sex all of the time. He is always talking about it, asking for it, hinting at it, groping me and I feel terrible because I don't want it. It wisent always this way. I used to not be able to keep my hands off of him. I feel used when we have sex. I feel like the only time he pays any attention to me is when he wants it. He isn't compassionate or emotional. When I am hurt, he turns away. Sometimes he says hurtful things to me just to hurt me. IT SEEMS LIKE I am always doing hat he wants and he doesn't care what i want unless he is going to get something out of it. I am a very giving caring person and I do everything for him. I take care of everything and i do what i can to keep peace. i feel like i am always walking on eggshells because he is very critical. I want him to communicate with me and be emotionally connected to me, but he isn't and when I talk to him about it, he shuts down and doesn't want to talk. Unless he wants sex from me and even then, I think he is just saying what i want to hear. I don't think he ever hears what i am saying. Please help. I want to want sex from him but i also want him to be there emotionally and have a heart sometimes!