Confusing Girl At Work

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There is this girl I like I work with.

We all went out mad Friday and had a great night. Me her and a couple of others ended up staying out until about 4am.

We had two weeks off for Christmas and she virtually liked everything I posted on Facebook. Even stuff she doesn't like. Like football, betting and guitars.

We came back after Christmas and she has been really really flirty with me. Poking, pulling my hair, putting things down my back, offering me a back massage and tickling me. As as well as that flirty, micky taking banter.

We've been out a a few times in groups and generally been really flirty with me.

She had a really bad day at work and she messaged saying I'm her hero and how she feels safe around me.

The Thursday before Easter me and her and another lad went out. She was all over me, holding hands, cuddling and touching me and we had a kiss.

Although she put she had amazing night on Friday and a few selfies of me and her on Facebook with love hearts.

She has been friends with this other guy at work and she's rejected him 5 or 6 times. But now she seems to be 'seeing him'.

But since she's been seeing him the flirting with me has continued. She sits behind me, and she can't go a day without poking me, tickling me, pulling my hair etc. One day last week she spent the last 2 hours of the shift tickling me and poking me. She wrote I love U on my hand and I had a a bruise on my arm from her nipping me and told I told her about it and she said 'Oh would you like me to kiss it better'?

I've never met a girl has so intensely flirted with me for so long. I really like her. But no idea what to do?

I'd really like some advice.

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@TheCasual,

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There is this girl I like I work with.

We all went out mad Friday and had a great night. Me her and a couple of others ended up staying out until about 4am.

We had two weeks off for Christmas and she virtually liked everything I posted on Facebook. Even stuff she doesn't like. Like football, betting and guitars.

We came back after Christmas and she has been really really flirty with me. Poking, pulling my hair, putting things down my back, offering me a back massage and tickling me. As as well as that flirty, micky taking banter.

We've been out a a few times in groups and generally been really flirty with me.

She had a really bad day at work and she messaged saying I'm her hero and how she feels safe around me.

The Thursday before Easter me and her and another lad went out. She was all over me, holding hands, cuddling and touching me and we had a kiss.

Although she put she had amazing night on Friday and a few selfies of me and her on Facebook with love hearts.

She has been friends with this other guy at work and she's rejected him 5 or 6 times. But now she seems to be 'seeing him'.

But since she's been seeing him the flirting with me has continued. She sits behind me, and she can't go a day without poking me, tickling me, pulling my hair etc. One day last week she spent the last 2 hours of the shift tickling me and poking me. She wrote I love U on my hand and I had a a bruise on my arm from her nipping me and told I told her about it and she said 'Oh would you like me to kiss it better'?

I've never met a girl has so intensely flirted with me for so long. I really like her. But no idea what to do?

I'd really like some advice.

Well, I don't see much to like about her in the scenario you painted in your post. She's seeing someone else, but flirts with you at work ... so much so that a great deal of your work day is spent in frivolity. If she was seeing you, i.e., if you were her boyfriend, who would be her flirt partner then? Probably not you. And why would you tolerate pulling hair and pokes that bruise? Sounds sadistic, not flirty. Putting things down your back? childish! I think you should keep things professional in the work place and stop following her on Facebook.

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I can't explain it. There is just something about her.

I give it her back as well.

Everytime she walked pass me she'd brush up against or touch me.

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@TheCasual,

TheCasual wrote:

I can't explain it. There is just something about her.

I give it her back as well.

Everytime she walked pass me she'd brush up against or touch me.

The relationship appears childish. It's junior high school stuff. or worse, grade school; a pulling pigtails kind of thing.

As an adult, who is at work, you should act in a professional manner. As an adult, you should seek out an adult relationship. Workplace romances or flirtations don't end well. Coveting what you see everyday isn't healthy and counting the number of "likes" she bestows upon you on Facebook is not a relationship. Your fixation with this flirtation is stopping you from progressing from childhood to adulthood. At least that's how it appears to me. Perhaps others have a different viewpoint.

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@TheCasual,

I would steer clear. Having a relationship with someone while working together pretty much always ends in disaster. I have seen it happen many times over. Yeah, it's cute at first, but as the relationship goes on, something will always happen which will cause drama at the work place. Eventually one or the other will quit due to the awkwardness factor.
Side note, if she is "seeing someone" and she is clearly flirting with you, she is not worthing dating and will always flirt with someone else no matter who she is dating. There are 3.5 billion other girls out there. Go find another.

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@TheCasual,

Is it possible that this person she has rejected 5,6 times she doesn't really like and therefore, is trying to make you jealous, or the other way around, she is trying to make him jealous.

She "appears" to be childish yes a bit of a player in a way with people's emotions and what struck me is that she hurt you and all she could offer was " kissing it better" no regard for the fact she hurt you. Someone that has feelings for someone generally reacts differently in that situation.

I think she likes playing with people's minds personally.

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There doesn't seem to be any sort of chemistry between her and this other guy. He just seems to be a 'nice guy'.

There are other guys near us and never really bothers with them. It's just me. It's been going on 6 months now.

I'm currently looking for a new job as well and when I told her she was gutted.

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@TheCasual,

We can be blind when we feel important.

What do you feel about the fact that she hurt you and turned it into flirtation of " kiss it better" instead of "shock" shirt I hurt him OMG. ?

Off course you are looking at Chemistry, flirting equates chemistry does it? Or can it be as I stated?

6 months and nothing. Nada. Nothing. Do you perhaps see that she likes to play with emotions? 6 months and a girl gives up, if she is waiting for you to kiss her, or something simular what if she then laughs, or tells her boss and gets you fired? 6 months of it, have a serious think.

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I don't know what to think.

It's so head blagging.

That is one of the reasons I'm looking for a new job.

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@TheCasual,

Yeah, you aren't even in a relationship with her and you are looking for another job. Just imagine the scenario where you guys end up together and you see her flirting with another guy at work. How would you feel then? Good luck with finding a new job man. Smart move and good reddens.

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@TheCasual,

If she do all such things then why don't you stop her to do so.

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