Advice on social contacts

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First Off, I'm Dutch so my apologies for any grammar/spelling mistakes (feel free to correct them). I've made a combined post of two questions, but I though it might be better to make two different posts.

I would like some advice on social contacts.
I'm currently looking for new social contacts but I'm not the type of guy that likes party's or crowded events, so I've primarily been looking online.

My problem online is that all sorts of dating/socializing sites/apps are filled with guys who try to show off their abs and girls wearing insane amounts of makeup, which are generally not the type of people I'm looking for. I'm primarily looking for a bit more shy, less outgoing, intelligent and overall down to earth people.

Can someone point me towards certain places/sites/apps where I might find such people?

Any type of advice would be much appreciated.

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@Ghost1998,

Are you a member of any cultural institutions where you live? do you participate in any sports?

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@ehBeth,

Thank you for your reaction.

I'm not sure what cultural institutions are, but I'm not a member of any sort of club or social group. I have played football (soccer) for one season but the season literately ended two days ago, and the members of my team were all twice my age because I joined a team that plays just for fun. (I don't like competitive sports)

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@Ghost1998,

cultural institutions = museums, art galleries ... places like that

are you a volunteer for any organization?

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sounds like it's time to join some clubs and groups

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@Ghost1998,

Ghost1998 wrote:

Thank you for your reaction.

response or answer , not reaction Smile

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@ehBeth,

I'm not really into art, museums or most other places like that unfortunately.
I'm not a volunteer either (there is not much to volunteer for in my town)

I don't think that The Netherlands has that many clubs or particular groups to join. I've never met somebody who joined a club or group outside of school, and even the high school that I went to only had two clubs ("Drama" and "light and sound").

Besides that, I currently don't have any sports or hobbies that really interest me. That's why I was primarily looking online. Al of this combined makes it really hard to find like-minded people.

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@ehBeth,

Thank you for the correction. I was unable to edit my post, but I'll try to remember that Wink

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@Ghost1998,

Are you interested in live music? are there are cafes or pubs in your neighbourhood / community where there are live music performances?

Are there immigrants or refugees in your community who are receiving support from volunteer groups?

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@Ghost1998,

turns out the statistics back up my memories of the Netherlands

Quote:

In 2010, a survey revealed that the Netherlands has the highest percentage of volunteers in the world. More than one in five people work as volunteer; a number which has been growing during the past decade. Volunteers spend an average of five hours a week on unpaid activities.

http://www.access-nl.org/living-in-the-netherlands/working/volunteering.aspx

lots of links to agencies

Quote:

Volunteering in the Netherlands
For general information on volunteering in Netherlands, you can contact the national Dutch volunteer office on its hotline, (0900 899 8600, €0.20 per min.) and check the daily papers for ads regarding volunteering opportunities.

Volunteer opportunities
ACCESS: Of course, volunteering for ACCESS means supporting the international community in the Netherlands and is a rewarding way of using your existing skills and adding to your experience during your stay in the country.
Amnesty International: focuses on humanity and human rights.
Children's International Summer Villages: become active in the Junior Branch. It arranges JB-weekends and helps organise summer and winter camps.
Idealist: for volunteer openings both in the Netherlands and worldwide.
Expatriate Archive Centre: an organisation which archives expat experiences.
Friends of the Earth: a national organisation dedicated to environmental issues.
Humanitas: This organisation has a large variety of positions for volunteers, which are supported by around 300 paid staff. Humanitas has nearly 600 projects and activities in five different areas: parents and children, community, loneliness and isolation, active aging, and grief and loss.
Markt: offers a list of volunteer opportunities from various organisations across the Netherlands.
Nederland Cares: a national organisation specialising in flexible voluntary work, with English speaking opportunities mostly based around Amsterdam.
Go Abroad, Netherlands section: a directory for volunteer positions in the Netherlands
Volunteer in The Hague: Volunteer The Hague matches your talents and skills with the needs of local non-profit organisations.

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this is also available in other cities

http://www.meetup.com/cities/nl/amsterdam/

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@ehBeth,

Not really. As far as I'm aware there is not even a single café or pub in my town.
There are no refugees or immigrants anywhere near my town either.

I forgot to mention that I don't mind if it's just online contact, it could just be people that I can chat with, they don't even have to be Dutch. I hope that that makes it easier.

I'm sorry for continuously turning down your advice, but I just don't know where I want to go with my life and what my particular interest are at the moment, I do thank you for trying though and I will start looking around if there are any clubs/groups in nearby city's.

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@Ghost1998,

Take a look at the volunteer link. There may be something interesting there.

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Ýou didn't answer my question about music. Do you like live music?

What did you study in school?

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@ehBeth,

I looked at both link and for the meetup one, there was only one thing within 5 miles of my town (10 miles would be pretty far on bike) which was going for a drink in a bar. Besides the fact that I don't drink alcohol, I also really dislike bar's.

For the volunteer one, the minimum requirements said "You must have had significant expatriate experience. Extended foreign student experiences and/or worldwide business travel does not, unfortunately, qualify.", and I can't really figure out what that means. especially the word "expatriate", it translates to to exile or to banish in Dutch.

"Not really", this was mend for your question whether or not I liked (live) music, sorry for the confusion.

I don't have any diploma yet, I'm currently following a pretty high high school education (we have different levels of high school education) at home.
My current classes include: Dutch, English, math, basic math (not sure how you would call it), science, physics, computer science and sociology.

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