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Sat 21 Aug, 2004 02:25 am
I GUESS I JUST NEED TO LET STUFF OUT. I REALLY HAVE NO IDEA OF WHAT IS GOING ON WITH MY LIFE, THIS IS MY STORY. I MET MY WIFE 10 YEARS AGO, I WAS 19 AND SHE WAS 15. WE DATED FOR 7 MONTHS UNTIL I MOVED TO A DIFFERENT CITY. FOR 6 1/2 YEARS WE HAD A LONG DISTANCE RELASHIONSHIP, I WOULD VISIT EVERY 6 MONTHS. WE DECIDED TO GET MARRIED AND WE DID, 4 YEARS AGO. IT WAS LIKE A DREAM COME TRUE, AFTER SUCH A LONG TIME, WE HAD FINALLY MADE IT. SHE MOVED OUT WITH ME TO L.A, LEFT HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS. SINCE DAY ONE, I MADE IT CLEAR THAT SHE WAS A FREE WOMEN BY MY SIDE, MEANING THAT SHE COULD CALL, OR VISIT HER FAMILY WHENEVER SHE WANTED BECAUSE I KNEW IT WAS HARD FOR HER. SO SHE DID, SHE WOULD GO EVERY 6 MONTHS, HER FAMILY LIVES IN ANOTHER COUNTRY. I GUESS THE FIRST YEAR 1/2 WAS FINE. BUT LITTLE BY LITTLE THINGS STARTED TO CHANGE. FINANCIALLY SPEAKING, WE STARTED TO GO DOWN. AS A RESULT, WE WOULD GO OUT LESS, I WOULDN'T BUY HER CLOTHES WHERE I DID BEFORE. THE IDEA OF BUYING A HOME WAS FARTHER THEN EVER. BUT IN OUR RELASHIONSHIP, WE WOULD FIGHT, BUT RESPECT EACH OTHER. NEVER A BAD WORD CAME OUT OF MY OR HER MOUTH, NEVER AN INSULT, I NEVER HIT HER, I WAS NEVER UNFAITHFUL, I WOULD NEVER GO OUT AT NIGHT AND LEAVE HER ALONE. WE ALSO HAD A INTIMATE PROBLEM, SEX WAS TO PAINFUL FOR HER, SO LITTLE BY LITTLE WE DRIFTED APART, BUT I WAS NEVER UNFAITHFUL, I NEVER FORCED HER, I WOULD ALWAYS LET HER KNOW THAT IT WASN'T HER FAULT, THAT WE WOULD GET THROUGH IT, THAT I WOULD WAIT A LIFE TIME JUST TO BE WITH HER, THAT I WOULD NEVER LEAVE HER SIDE EVEN THOUGH SEX WASN'T GREAT. BUT SUDDENLY, AFTER THE FIRST YEAR 1/2, SHE STARTED TO TALK ABOUT A POSSIBLE DIVORCE, GOING TO SEE HER FAMILY AND COMING BACK WAS GETTING HARDER AND HARDER FOR HER. SHE WOULD COMPARE MY FAMILY WITH HERS, A LOT. SHE WOULD COMPARE ME WITH HER BROTHER IN LAW WHO IS A DENTIST WITH A GREAT CAREER. BUT SOMEHOW WE WOULD WORK IT OUT, AT LEAST THAT'S WHAT I THOUGHT. 6 MONTHS AGO, SHE WENT TO SEE HER FAMILY, SHE LEFT IN GOOD TERMS, ONCE SHE WAS OVERTHERE, SHE CALLED AND SAID SHE WOULD NOT COME BACK, THIS HAPPENED ONLY A MONTH AFTER I FELL SICK, ALMOST DIED AND WAS HOSPITALIZED FOR 2 WEEKS. SHE LEFT. IT HURT ME, MANY THINGS WENT THROUGH MY MIND, BUT AFTER COUNSELING, I DECIDED TO FIGHT FOR MY MARRIAGE AND WENT FOR HER, I FORGOT ABOUT HER LEAVING WHEN I WAS ILL. I FORGOT ABOUT ALL THE BAD THINGS I KNOW FOR A FACT SHE SAID ABOUT ME TO HER FAMILY. HER REASONS TO LEAVE WERE SUDDENLY THOUSANDS. SHE SAID WE DID NOT HAVE A FUTURE, THAT I WAS A LOSER. THAT I WOULD LET HER GO TO SEE HER FAMILY JUST BECAUSE I WANTED HER TO BE AWAY FROM ME. THAT OUR SEX LIFE WAS PATHETIC, AND IT WAS, BUT SHE WAS THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM, ALL I DID WAS UNDERSTAND HER. EVENTUALLY SHE CAME BACK, THAT SEPERATION HELPED ME REALIZE MY MISTAKES AND DID EVERYTHING TO CHANGE. LAST MONTH, SHE WENT TO VISIT AGAIN, I LET HER GO, TRUSTED HER AGAIN. WE SPOKE A LOT ABOUT HOW SHE WAS FEELING BEFORE SHE LEFT, I WANTED NO SURPRISES, SHE SAID SHE WAS FINE, FOR ME NOT TO WORRY. WELL, SHE LEFT, CALLED A WEEK AFTER AND SAID SHE WASN'T COMING BACK, THAT SHE WANTED A DIVORCE. I LOVE MY WIFE, BUT I CAN'T FIGHT FOR MY MARRIAGE ANYMORE. I LOVE HER, BUT I DON'T UNDERSTAND HER. I LOVE HER, BUT EVEN IF IT'S HARD TO ACCEPT, I KNOW SHE DOESN'T LOVE ME. I GUESS I'M STUCK WITH A 1000 QUESTIONS. WHAT HAPPENED? WHAT DID I DO SO WRONG? SHOULD I HAVE BEEN HARDER WITH HER? SHOULD I HAVE FORCED HER IN TO SEX? DID I DO WRONG BY UNDERSTANDING HER? WHY DOES SHE DUMP ME BY PHONE? WHY CAN'T SHE DO IT IN PERSON LIKE IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE? WHAT DID I DO SO WRONG? I UNDERSTAND I CAN'T FIGHT FOR A LOST CAUSE. I LOOK AT THE PHONE AND WANT TO CALL HER, I MISS HER, GOD I MISS HER. BUT I KNOW I MUST NOT AND I DON'T. I JUST THINK IT'S TIME FOR ME TO MAKE A STAND, EVEN IF THAT MEANS SUFFERING, IT HURTS A LOT LESS THAN CALLING HER AND FEELING HER INDIFERANCE. DID I EVER KNOW MY WIFE? WHO IS SHE, WHO WAS HER? DID SHE EVER LOVE ME? WHY IS IT THAT I ACCEPTED ALL HER MISTAKES AND STILL LOVE HER AND SHE SAYS SHE DOESN'T LOVE ME? DOES LOVE REALLY DIE? TRUE LOVE? I GUESS TIME CURES EVERYTHING, ALL I KNOW IS THAT I WILL NEVER KNOW TRULLY WHAT HAPPENED. I AM FORCED TO FORGET HER, I AM FORCED TO DUMP ALL THIS LOVE. HOW DO I DO THAT? HOW CAN SHE FORGET ALL I GAVE HER? ALL OUR STORY. A GOOD OPINION WOULD HELP. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK. I MISS MY WIFE, AND I KNOW THIS IS GONNA KILL THE INOCENT PART OF ME. THE GUY I WAS IS DEAD, I DON'T KNOW IF I WILL EVER TRUST AGAIN, IF I WILL EVER LOVE AGAIN
WELCOME TO THE CLUB DUDE. THAT'S HOW WOMEN ARE, YOU ARE THE VICTIM OF A
MONSTER
. I FEEL FOR YOU
2 cents: Differentiate the case when responding to yourself.
Broken, succinct as always, wrote:I GUESS I JUST NEED TO LET STUFF OUT. I REALLY HAVE NO IDEA OF WHAT IS GOING ON WITH MY LIFE, THIS IS MY STORY. I MET MY WIFE 10 YEARS AGO, I WAS 19 AND SHE WAS 15. WE DATED FOR 7 MONTHS UNTIL I MOVED TO A DIFFERENT CITY. FOR 6 1/2 YEARS WE HAD A LONG DISTANCE RELASHIONSHIP, I WOULD VISIT EVERY 6 MONTHS. WE DECIDED TO GET MARRIED AND WE DID, 4 YEARS AGO. IT WAS LIKE A DREAM COME TRUE, AFTER SUCH A LONG TIME, WE HAD FINALLY MADE IT. SHE MOVED OUT WITH ME TO L.A, LEFT HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS. SINCE DAY ONE, I MADE IT CLEAR THAT SHE WAS A FREE WOMEN BY MY SIDE, MEANING THAT SHE COULD CALL, OR VISIT HER FAMILY WHENEVER SHE WANTED BECAUSE I KNEW IT WAS HARD FOR HER. SO SHE DID, SHE WOULD GO EVERY 6 MONTHS, HER FAMILY LIVES IN ANOTHER COUNTRY. I GUESS THE FIRST YEAR 1/2 WAS FINE. BUT LITTLE BY LITTLE THINGS STARTED TO CHANGE. FINANCIALLY SPEAKING, WE STARTED TO GO DOWN. AS A RESULT, WE WOULD GO OUT LESS, I WOULDN'T BUY HER CLOTHES WHERE I DID BEFORE. THE IDEA OF BUYING A HOME WAS FARTHER THEN EVER. BUT IN OUR RELASHIONSHIP, WE WOULD FIGHT, BUT RESPECT EACH OTHER. NEVER A BAD WORD CAME OUT OF MY OR HER MOUTH, NEVER AN INSULT, I NEVER HIT HER, I WAS NEVER UNFAITHFUL, I WOULD NEVER GO OUT AT NIGHT AND LEAVE HER ALONE. WE ALSO HAD A INTIMATE PROBLEM, SEX WAS TO PAINFUL FOR HER, SO LITTLE BY LITTLE WE DRIFTED APART, BUT I WAS NEVER UNFAITHFUL, I NEVER FORCED HER, I WOULD ALWAYS LET HER KNOW THAT IT WASN'T HER FAULT, THAT WE WOULD GET THROUGH IT, THAT I WOULD WAIT A LIFE TIME JUST TO BE WITH HER, THAT I WOULD NEVER LEAVE HER SIDE EVEN THOUGH SEX WASN'T GREAT. BUT SUDDENLY, AFTER THE FIRST YEAR 1/2, SHE STARTED TO TALK ABOUT A POSSIBLE DIVORCE, GOING TO SEE HER FAMILY AND COMING BACK WAS GETTING HARDER AND HARDER FOR HER. SHE WOULD COMPARE MY FAMILY WITH HERS, A LOT. SHE WOULD COMPARE ME WITH HER BROTHER IN LAW WHO IS A DENTIST WITH A GREAT CAREER. BUT SOMEHOW WE WOULD WORK IT OUT, AT LEAST THAT'S WHAT I THOUGHT. 6 MONTHS AGO, SHE WENT TO SEE HER FAMILY, SHE LEFT IN GOOD TERMS, ONCE SHE WAS OVERTHERE, SHE CALLED AND SAID SHE WOULD NOT COME BACK, THIS HAPPENED ONLY A MONTH AFTER I FELL SICK, ALMOST DIED AND WAS HOSPITALIZED FOR 2 WEEKS. SHE LEFT. IT HURT ME, MANY THINGS WENT THROUGH MY MIND, BUT AFTER COUNSELING, I DECIDED TO FIGHT FOR MY MARRIAGE AND WENT FOR HER, I FORGOT ABOUT HER LEAVING WHEN I WAS ILL. I FORGOT ABOUT ALL THE BAD THINGS I KNOW FOR A FACT SHE SAID ABOUT ME TO HER FAMILY. HER REASONS TO LEAVE WERE SUDDENLY THOUSANDS. SHE SAID WE DID NOT HAVE A FUTURE, THAT I WAS A LOSER. THAT I WOULD LET HER GO TO SEE HER FAMILY JUST BECAUSE I WANTED HER TO BE AWAY FROM ME. THAT OUR SEX LIFE WAS PATHETIC, AND IT WAS, BUT SHE WAS THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM, ALL I DID WAS UNDERSTAND HER. EVENTUALLY SHE CAME BACK, THAT SEPERATION HELPED ME REALIZE MY MISTAKES AND DID EVERYTHING TO CHANGE. LAST MONTH, SHE WENT TO VISIT AGAIN, I LET HER GO, TRUSTED HER AGAIN. WE SPOKE A LOT ABOUT HOW SHE WAS FEELING BEFORE SHE LEFT, I WANTED NO SURPRISES, SHE SAID SHE WAS FINE, FOR ME NOT TO WORRY. WELL, SHE LEFT, CALLED A WEEK AFTER AND SAID SHE WASN'T COMING BACK, THAT SHE WANTED A DIVORCE. I LOVE MY WIFE, BUT I CAN'T FIGHT FOR MY MARRIAGE ANYMORE. I LOVE HER, BUT I DON'T UNDERSTAND HER. I LOVE HER, BUT EVEN IF IT'S HARD TO ACCEPT, I KNOW SHE DOESN'T LOVE ME. I GUESS I'M STUCK WITH A 1000 QUESTIONS. WHAT HAPPENED? WHAT DID I DO SO WRONG? SHOULD I HAVE BEEN HARDER WITH HER? SHOULD I HAVE FORCED HER IN TO SEX? DID I DO WRONG BY UNDERSTANDING HER? WHY DOES SHE DUMP ME BY PHONE? WHY CAN'T SHE DO IT IN PERSON LIKE IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE? WHAT DID I DO SO WRONG? I UNDERSTAND I CAN'T FIGHT FOR A LOST CAUSE. I LOOK AT THE PHONE AND WANT TO CALL HER, I MISS HER, GOD I MISS HER. BUT I KNOW I MUST NOT AND I DON'T. I JUST THINK IT'S TIME FOR ME TO MAKE A STAND, EVEN IF THAT MEANS SUFFERING, IT HURTS A LOT LESS THAN CALLING HER AND FEELING HER INDIFERANCE. DID I EVER KNOW MY WIFE? WHO IS SHE, WHO WAS HER? DID SHE EVER LOVE ME? WHY IS IT THAT I ACCEPTED ALL HER MISTAKES AND STILL LOVE HER AND SHE SAYS SHE DOESN'T LOVE ME? DOES LOVE REALLY DIE? TRUE LOVE? I GUESS TIME CURES EVERYTHING, ALL I KNOW IS THAT I WILL NEVER KNOW TRULLY WHAT HAPPENED. I AM FORCED TO FORGET HER, I AM FORCED TO DUMP ALL THIS LOVE. HOW DO I DO THAT? HOW CAN SHE FORGET ALL I GAVE HER? ALL OUR STORY. A GOOD OPINION WOULD HELP. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK. I MISS MY WIFE, AND I KNOW THIS IS GONNA KILL THE INOCENT PART OF ME. THE GUY I WAS IS DEAD, I DON'T KNOW IF I WILL EVER TRUST AGAIN, IF I WILL EVER LOVE AGAIN
My heads hurts now. I'm going to take an aspirin and go to bed.
Could you possibly reformat this text in Cyrillic? At least when reading Russian I expect everything to look like all-caps. Interesting work, JoeLA. You want a good opinion? Get help. You have a real problem with women in general, and you are blaming this all on your ex, without realizing that maybe a. she just wasn't the right person for you or b. you just hate women in general, and it's all her fault. I feel bad for you that you can't see how destructive these feelings are. All men have dated women they couldn't stand after a messy breakup, but dude, to take one experience and use it as an excuse to condemn all women is just a sickness.
It's over. Move on. But try and learn some more about yourself before you find yourself in another dysfunctional situation.
And stop writing in caps. It is considered shouting, and very rude on the internet. Maybe your doing it says something about you!
Some choice quotes from Broken's alter-ego:
[quote=JoeLA]Yes, I said it, but I guess what I mean is that men should be able to have any women he wants, without worrying about losing her in the future because she gets tired of him. [/quote]
[quote=Joe]i just don't trust [women][/quote]
[quote=Joe]If a man is powerful and rich, you can treat your women however you want and she will take it. [/quote]
Brooke also made a wise comment about your not wanting to be romantic... thinking it superfluous. Somehow, I get the impression that you're leaving a hell of a lot out, Joe. You can't just let a relationship be languid. You have to work to keep it living, just like you had to work to start it in the first place.
Well since Broken and Joe are obviously the same person, let me direct my response to Joe and Broken
Joe and Broken
What the hell do you mean "you let her go see here family"? Marriage is not an ownership of your spouse Buddy!
Also, if you ever tried to force your wife to have sex, it's called rape and that's jail term.
Now I see clearly why she left you. You act like you owned her and you need to do some major cleaning up of your act!
If Broken and Joe are not one in the same, then my response goes out to Broken of course.
What the hell! Are there a bunch of posts missing?
Who the heck is Brooke?
Brooke is posting on Joe's thread. The one about Marriage being a stupid idea.
Good on ya mate, this is a deeper thread than I realised.
Yep, Joe and Broken are almost obviously the same person.... Broken the version of Joe that Joe thinks will win more sympathy.
Hell, anyway; I agree wholeheartedly with Montana. The whole damn thing is about possession. The girl was probably suffocated.
Joe/Broken, the smother-lovers aren't likely to have a profitable career in fiction writing....unless...a new genre...Backlash Romance, formula fiction for the bullying wimps.
That was evil.
Use paragraphs.
<Headache,...going to bed...>
. By this logic, every man is like George Bush. 
.. maybe it has something to do with spaghetti hoops?
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