Is that my husband in a gay porn video

Here is a background synopsis to understand our relationship.

My husband and I are both in the military. There are times when, at any moment, one or both of us are away for periods of time (longest being two months not counting a nine month deployment) so, we both have a mutual agreement where we can sexually pleasure ourselves with p*rn.

Im extremely creative when we get together. I'm open to just about anything. I love trying new things, as I'm more of a free spirit where anything could happen. HB on the other hand is more reserved. He almost seems shy but can sometimes surprise me with something new. I don't push him to do off the wall stuff nor do I ever speak in a negative way about it. Love is supposed to be free, unconditional full of passion and communication in my eyes.

There was a time last year in August that I had ankle surgery. If you live a pretty active lifestyle and end up out of commission, you know that I went through a rough patch where I got a little depressed. I felt weak. I couldn't go out, I couldn't do anything on my own and I felt really useless. If I'd had any friends, they didn't prove it then. Not trying to place blame as I never felt worthy enough to reach out either. It didn't make it any better that, the first time I'd asked hubby to do anything for me (post surgery I asked for my pain meds and something to drink) he got really annoyed by it. I'm sure it just didn't register that I really needed him since I always made the effort to handle my own. That's not to say that I'd turn down his offer if he ever did nor did I ever neglect him.

I realized yesterday after watching these videos that, he really was not interested in sex with me at least a month before the surgery. Trying to be logical, I brushed it off as we were both extremely busy. I was swamped at work and taking tons of heat from my boss and he was learning how to be a boss with multiple soldiers he was in charge of with his promotion. Then I thought some more and I know he was always happy at work for the most part but, distancing himself from me while doing so. He went out with his buddies often. Rode his motorcycle nearly everyday for hours and there was no issue. He could clear his mind(that's what he said when he wanted to go out alone) and I could catch up on priorities at home. (Cleaning, sorting/paying bills and putting food in the house) it may seem like a false, one sided story but, from my POV that's how life was.

Now, fast forward to yesterday 28 March, 2016. He was playing a game called division in the game room and I was pretty frustrated sexually. Learning the hard way in the past, I just took care of it myself. (Remember, I'm pretty much into anything) so I was surfing the sites, looking for a good amateur film. One where they were the same sex, one was totally straight and they'd gotten secretly filmed in the act. Well I found the right one after maybe a 20 min search and I'm getting into it, imagining my own reasons for how they'd ended up together and one guys body language starts looking awfully familiar. I pause the video and the frame that it froze in was spitting image of my HB!!!

Here is why I have yet to bring it up to him.
1. The best quality I could get was 480p
2. The video could potentially be rather embarrassing (obviously if it is him, he's been hiding it. And if it's not him, he might be offended.)
3. A broad idea of the video, there's a fit male topping a 500lb+ male

Here's why I have such a suspicion
1. Every detail of this guy fits my husband
-his right nipple drifts to the right(obviously)
-he stands the same way
-his physical entirety is that of my husband. From his big hands, long, oddly positioned arms. The way his head extends from his neck, hair length and style, forehead, head shape and size, penis size/shape. Literally, everything but the quality of the video is him.
2. The stroke in this video was so spot on, I knew what this bottom was feeling and where when (supposed) HB did his signature moves. Right down to the face he makes, when he pulls out so he doesn't .... Too quick.
3. There happened to be another video with the same people and the title says the same thing only "again" at the end.
4. Wedding ring still on in both vids
5. He has no tattoos, piercings or scars but his rib cage protrudes at the bottom
6. In the second video, he actually speaks (bottom tells him to say he hates f******, and he repeats it. In the same voice, tone(when unsure of what he says he lets the first word drag on a little and the rest enunciated) he says some other things that don't need to be repeated but it's all as if I'm in the room with him saying it.

To close this up, the way I feel is pretty indifferent. I don't want to assume, blame or insinuate. I know that he has issues with honesty as it is. (Literally, so simple as just recently I tried to open a coconut and couldn't. Handed it to him and he did it with no issue. A third person who was with us asked who broke it and he said I did. We went back and forth saying "you did, no you did" and me verbally replaying how and why.) so, what I'm saying is, without having a higher quality video to prove or disprove that being him, there is no way he would hear me out, watch the video or admit to it being him.

My intentions for wanting to know are not to bash, scold, belittle or berate him at all. I seriously am very confused as to why he couldn't/wouldn't share this with me. Is this normal for him, am I doing something that makes him uncomfortable, is there something wrong with me, how long has it been going on, what else he is in to and is he gay, straight, curious, confused, just did it for money(even tho the tags had hooker and basically that he paid to do it)

Now let's say, after all of this I got an had video of this and it turned out to not be him? I would never bring it up and be glad about it. I can't say that I'd be sorry for thinking it as it's just too convenient to overlook or ignore.

If you've read this far and still have questions, here are some things I hope could answer them.

I've never cheated on him, he has never cheated on me to my knowledge, I've done everything with him except add any other person to our sex life, I'm not lazy in bed, I do give oral, yes I'm pretty good at it(not tooting my horn, proofs in the pudding) I've seen thing that hint that he is into guys. (Very broad, could be justified as joking) he is combat arms. That means there are only guys where he works, where they all want to have more testosterone than water. For months last year, he whistled the song 'why do birds suddenly appear' randomly but very often.

Please, someone give me your suggestions. What do you think? Suggestions are more than welcome thanks in advance.