She just wont go away from my mind and heart

So she was in control of you, right? And now, even though she's not around you're still letting her run the show.

Take the wheel of your life, Rudi, steer where you want to go, man.

When you're in love with someone, it doesn't feel like your drowning.

Much love,


Joe

If the break up was sudden, especially if she was the one who decidd it was over, then most likely you just need a little closure. You need to find a way to close that chapter in your life, some sort of finality must be reached before you can move on. Yuo don't sound like you're in love with this woman, you just sound like you're a wee bit in shock about the abrupt ending of something you weren't ready to have end.

Well, the amazing thing about our minds is - we can think anything we want to! Really, we can. So when you feel that you can't think of anything but her, all you need to do is change the channel in your brain. Yes, it's like using a remote control. Just do it. When thoughts of her crowd into your brain, tell yourself no. When you find yourself sighing and missing her, change the subject.

I strongly suspect you are not doing much in your life. Do you get out much? Talk to other people (and not about her, about other topics)? Read books? Go to the movies? Exercise? Cook? Garden? Fix cars? Ride a bike? etc. etc. etc.? You get the idea, I bet.

And what is the idea (just in case you're not sure what I'm talking about)? The idea is, do other things with your life. See people. Talk about other stuff. Engage yourself with the world. When you do so, despair incredibly starts to depart. Since you admit you did not get along with this woman, and that it's been 3 months (certainly long enough to get over just about any nonmarital relationship that didn't end in a death), it strikes me that you are clinging for some reason. Is it because you have nothing else? Because, truly, people with other interests slough this kind of thing off all the time.

Time to let this go.

I have been in and out of a lot of relationships before I finally settled down with squinney....and Ifound that the only time I really missed someone after I broke up with them is when I wasn't getting laid enough. that's easy to fix and it works......

Rudi/Rudy--

I suspect you are a poet and a scab picker.

Your lost love is far more romantic--and far less inconvenien--as a lost love than as a live-in-lover.

Sixteen years--the time between 20 and 36--is a large gap. You were letting this child run your life?

Come on, poets are independent. Forget the scab picking. Done is done. Continue to turning the past into poetry and start living again.

Poets are much more attractive than scab pickers.

Hey Noddy!
You really think I am a Poet?..
That´s a great motivation and compliment man thank´s!!
I was or still am a fool to let this child run my life..but no more man..Thanks you all!!it really helps talking with you guys!!

Love
Rudy


Good luck.

Bi-Polar Bear wrote:

I have been in and out of a lot of relationships before I finally settled down with squinney....and Ifound that the only time I really missed someone after I broke up with them is when I wasn't getting laid enough. that's easy to fix and it works......

Hey Bi Polar bear!!

That´s a very cool tip of yours!!..I´ll do that!!

Thanks!
Rudy

.....If I may summarize what you´re trying to tell me is that I shouldn´t have been too stuck up with her right?..yes you´re right..I did a great mistake!!

Love,
Rudy