A little of column "A" and a little of column.....
I may be too late (I know it's been a while since the last posting) but I can, perhaps, offer some alternate perspective.
Both of my parents have been divorced three times (yes, three... and only one was to each other) my father's second marraige gained him an adoptive son, a natural son, and, well, my father's listed as the parent on the Birth Certificate of the third, but this was before genetic paternity tests...
I was raised with my mother and Dad had visitation rights for me (every weekend/ every other weekend - it varied over the years), meanwhile my brothers were in my Dad's custody and they only saw their mom on X-mas and maybe once each summer.
Now, I will skip eons of history and back-story... As an adult I consider my Dad to be one of my best friends; I call him for advice, we go on vacations together, etc. My mother and I are also close, but I feel more of the typical "loves her mother but doesn't necessarily want her visiting for more than a day or two." However, my brothers ended up finishing High-school (well... some of them finished high school) living with their mom {
who is really a horrible person who should never have been allowed near the children she spawned; the 25 year old still lives at home, the middle child was institutionalized for a while because he did so many drugs he literally went crazy, and the youngest fathered his first child at 17 - these were GOOD kids before she sunk her claws into them} and my Dad has only had contact with the middle child for years now.
It depends so much on everyone involved that the only definite I have been able to determine is that divorce effects the children much more than it effects the adults. The worst thing that the parent in custody can do to a child is to trash-talk the absent parent. This is assuming that neither parent is a truly bad person; if the absent parent is a pedophile or mass-murderer the rules obviously change. But, in the typical situation where both parents are just people who can't live with each other anymore... saying negative things at any opportunity just hurts the child - and could very well backlash and cause the negative feelings to be attributed to you.
But, as far as close future relationships go... a lot of people don't really like their parents when they grow up even if their folks stayed together.... once you get to a certain age it's more dependent on basic personality whether two people get along and has almost nothing to do with genetics. Oh, you'll still go visit the fam. at holidays, but how many people rush back to their chosen family (friends, lovers, pets for the love of {insert deity here}) the second opportunity presents itself?
Heck, even I do, and I
Like my parents...
This is obviously not really advice - and way way too long...
brand new at this; haven't learned to edit myself yet :wink: ... but I guess my point is - be the best parent you can be, and don't worry about your reception in 20 years... and, if you've been the best parent you can be, you won't have to worry