@maxdancona,
I think you like to argue for the sake of arguing because the many of the things you are stating in bold is what we all agreed with so the point is moot.
No one said she should interfere with mom son relationship, however, if part of that is directly impacting then she has every right as it is her business if it impacts her. The mom is living with them - so this also invades her space so if this impacts her ie her husband does nothing (whether this has to do with the mom or not) in their home - it impacts her.
She also acknowledged that she came across wrong in her approach likely due to her being ill. Understandable although not the best approach - no one suggested a child adult relationship actually the opposite her husband acting like an adult as opposed to whining like a child.
Quote:If the wife doesn't like how her husband is, then she should divorce him (it may make both of them happier). But if she doesn't want to divorce him, then she needs to respect how he is, and to resolve these issues as equals.
Isn't this exactly what we were all suggesting - resolving the issue? Isn't this what she was asking help for how to handle it? The divorce suggestion is just plain stupid as all she is looking for is how best to handle this situation, not change him - asking him to make his own dinner for example when she is sick is not asking to change him.
But seeing we are not disagreeing, but you are just arguing for the sake of it - I have no more comments for you if you are that obtuse to even understand that. The only difference I see is your mis-guided viewpoint that this has to do with man vs woman when it is simply something that happens in a marriage where a caring couple will work it out (which I have no doubt they will) and in part I believe the poster is venting a bit as the mom living with them has to be a bit of a strain.