Feminist mother in law upset about my bra on the floor?

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So over holiday break I stayed with my fiancé at his families house. We are both in college but he has some younger siblings ages 6-11. One night we were watching some netflix after dinner in his room and i took my bra off (because I wanted to be comfortable) and set it on the floor by the bed. Then his little brother came in (6 yrs old) to get a board game out of the closet. After that my boyfriends mother came in for a second. Later that night she told my boyfriend that she needed to talk to him and then said that she doesn't want her 6 year old son seeing a bra on the floor and us in a bed.
We were not fooling around at all. His mom claims to be a feminist. It doesn't make sense to me that she would make such a big deal about a bra on the floor. I guess i don't know that much about feminism but.. i don't know, what do you guys think?

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[+5] - jespah - 01/07/2016It has nothing whatsoever to do with feminism. She doesn't want to see your clothes on the floor and she'd rather her young child wasn't treated to the sight of the two of you in bed together....

@Adeline21,

It has nothing whatsoever to do with feminism.

She doesn't want to see your clothes on the floor and she'd rather her young child wasn't treated to the sight of the two of you in bed together.

Her house, her rules.

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@Adeline21,

You behaved inappropriately in a house where you were a guest.

If you're old enough to be engaged, you're old enough to understand basic manners and standards of behaviour.

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@Adeline21,

Having read so far, I'm on your side.

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@ehBeth,

basic manners? Did the poster get a list at the door?

I might agree that the poster behaved inapproriately given the household.

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@Adeline21,

If I walked in and saw a couple in bed and a bra on the floor, the possibility that you had just been having sex would at least cross my mind. I understand why any mother would not want a 6 year old kid to see this.

I think it the mother is being reasonable. And it is her house. I don't see how this has anything to do with feminism.

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@maxdancona,

I assume the mother set up the room to have the couple together. Wouldn't she expect them to be in there together? Why would the six year old feel he could go in the room to begin with? I try to keep things neat, but I generally have a neat pile of clothes on the floor somewhere when I'm in a hotel or guest room.

Still, no reason to get bent here. It's her house, say sorry and let it go.

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@Adeline21,

I must admit, I am always amused by the argument about what makes a "good" feminist (would a good feminist even wear a bra?).

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@engineer,

The six year old went in to get a board game. The guest room probably has other functions when there are no guests in it.

You'd really put clothes on the floor in someone else's house? if I haven't been given a drawer, I always make sure everything's tucked back in my suitcase when not in use. Same thing in hotels ... everything's packed away ... except whatever I'm reading and what's being charged.

I was taught that other people's homes have to be respected - keep ém tidy - keep a low profile when I'm not helping out with something.

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@engineer,

given that she refers to the room as her boyfriend's room, it's not clear that his mother had set them up to share the room (that's still an iffy proposition in a lot of families - never my mother's but that's another adventure)

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@maxdancona,

For a lot of reasons having much to do with your take on feminism, and your slimy takes on it. Me, I don't see a problem.

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