girl that i like

winning her over might not be a positive thing for family harmony. Keep being her friend and wait til they don't talk anymore...then jump in

don't?

I know it sounds crazy but usually what wins a girl is doing the opposite of impressing. Just remain a friend, act "cool" and let her come to you.

Playing chase may win you the girl. For you, I hope it does.

I'm just saying, what is meant to happen ...will.

Let's say she like him. But because you pursue for her first, she thinks, "well better to have something than nothing," and gives up on her chase for your brother. Then what will you do? You may get jealous when your brother comes in the room and gives her that flirtatious look or better yet.

But if you remain cool and let her make the choice, she may just come to you ...not causing any tension or wars with your brother. Or she could choose him, go on a few dates and think, "yuk" and IM you about it ....and open up a door for you.

or you could just invite her out with a group of friends and see where it leads. Day trips with no tension (because you're in a group) usually have positive results. ...or at least it may make answers more clear to you (whether she has interest).

... and you might want to ask your brother where he stands in all of this. I mean, isn't he in the next room?

What i think you should do is tell her how you feel about her, because if you act like you don't like her then she will definetly go to your brother. If you dont want to tell her, just start trying to be better friends with her, give her little gifts and compliment her alot. (but not too much, then its just creepy!!) If she starts going out with your brother, wait a while and see if they are good together or if they split up. who knows?