Ex's who act mean.

IMO, the best thing you can do is take the higher road. Don't respond to this IM or say "Thanks for sharing" and sign off.

From my own experience, getting what you feel out because it "needs to be said" ...only ends up revealing uglier sides of each other that may have not been apparent before.

If there is any hope for a friendship or moving on, it might start at ending all communication until things have cooled down.

Ignore it and write it off as sour grapes. It's not worth getting upset over. I mean, he's your ex and not current boyfriend for a reason, yes?

Since you're over it, move on ... don't even think of replying to these IM's, if you do, you're just egging them on.

Sounds like you made a wise decision to move on to begin with, so ........ let it go!

whisper, it sounds to me like he just misses the good times with you and is mad that they are over and is taking it out on you

Whisper--

You can't understand/fathom/comprehend what your ex-boyfriend wants when you're talking face to face. Now you're trying to figure out what he wants when he's using a buddy as a mean mouthpiece.

Perhaps he didn't ask the buddy to send you nasty messages. Perhaps the buddy is just tired of hearing your ex moan and groan and dither about what to do.

Perhaps he did ask his buddy.

In either case, these guys are not treating you well. Your instinct not to have anything to do with them is excellent. Let them practice their courting and break up skills on some other woman--you've done your bit to add to their maturity.

School starts soon and as an unattached woman you have a whole new world out there. Let the past go...quietly.