To me this is a bit similar to lending a favorite book to someone and saying you wanted it back, only to find it was tossed or goodwilled by the friend. There are some books I'd love to see again.
Some of this may also have to do with money. I'm on the low money end, have spent a relative lot of my purse over the years re my weakness for books, and buying another copy has been a No.
In my case, I understand all those friends doing the tossing, basically they forgot or I should have been more insistent, and I also understand myself being miffed.
So, I do get the OP, Sophie, being miffed, but hope it isn't a friendship stall.
Re a gift, I tend to be sentimental about any gifts from people I care about.