Does he want more than just fwb? Or is he just a nice guy?

It sounds like he wants more and you don't. Is that true? Either way, you should clarify the situation with him. Either tell him you want more or want less.

What do you want?

Figure it out and talk to him.

@engineer, @ehbeth
Am not necessarily against dating him. I just don't want to seem too needy and lure him into dating when he is not ready. I don't believe in girls making the first move-if he wants something more, he should be upfront and say it. I don't want to be the one who gets to develop feelings in an fwb and mess up the whole thing

You're ok with ******* the guy but not ok with making the first move toward a relationship.

That's fucked up.

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This is the 21st century.

Women have been telling men what they need and want for many many decades.

Grow up and talk to him.

Seriously.

It's bullshit to think that men have to be the ones to make the first move. Straight out bullshit.


(someone else can find a nicer way to say that)

I think you said it perfectly well, ehBeth.

Hussshy, he has been telling you in all kinds of ways that he wants a relationship, not just fwb. My guess is that he thinks you only want an fwb type of relationship, so he stays quiet. The two of you need to learn a new word. Here it is. Communication. Start talking. One of you need to start the conversation about where you two are headed. So why not you? Start it.

Looks like her cares more than you.
Do with it whatever you wish.

from dating[fwb] to a proper relationship, you want to stop playing games;if you’re trying to move things forward, from dating to a proper relationship, you want to stop playing games; to get rid of all games you guys are playing with each other.

Of course, it’s easy enough for YOU to stop playing games if you so choose.

The question is, though… how can he stop you from playing games?

How can you disarm them before they even come up?

And THAT is an excellent question.Playing “games” is for pickup and dating… and for that purpose, they work very well.In a serious relationship with more depth, however, all these head games are really a lose-lose scenario… like in a nuke war, there are no winners.

Either you end up losing the power struggle, then you lose…

…or you end up winning the power struggle and fall out of love;What’s more… when you’re in love, playing head games with each other is absolutely exhausting.

Give each other a break, stop playing games, and discover how deep of a connection you can really build.

The first time I approached a relationship with one of my girlfriends that way, something fascinating happened… we started to speak openly about everything, and guess what... she just needed encouragement to show her feelings, because just like EVERY HUMAN BEING ON THE FACE OF THE EARTH, she had been hurt in the past, she was afraid… and she wanted to be loved.

She said she didn’t want to show her feelings because she was afraid of sounding corny.

She didn’t want to call and message me often because she was afraid of looking like a stalker.

She didn’t want to cry about missing me because she was afraid of looking ridiculous.withdrawing ended up hurting the relationship more than it helped… talk about some messed up society conditioning.because it takes more courage to open up than to hide from our feelings.

And if a girl is really in love with you, then any sort of moodiness you detect – such as distance, anger or aloofness – is GENERALLY about them not feeling loved -- a.k.a. their own FEAR.And that’s every bit as important as the knowledge of how to put an end to games, because that knowledge is only half of the battle - the other half is finding a partner who’ll be able to put an end to them along with you, too.

Onward and upward,