Is my bf controlling?

Ill start by saying that im 25 ive been with my bf for a year now and its my longest relationship. For awhile now ive had the thought lingering in the back of my head that i might be happier single than in the relationship. We have been through a lot together and some things that happen i make sense of it being that its normal in a long term relationship but i dont have any good role models in my family. Both parents have been married and divorced three times. Anyways, ill try to explain things in the simplest way possible.
I havent had a license our entire relationship and weve pretty much lived together its entirety too because of home issues for myself. When we fight its because he gets angry that i dont clean or doesnt have clean clothes or dishes werent done. Were always fighting about money. For the most part i have made more than him. I work full time. He has had five different jobs. He has told me he lost a couple of jobs because of taking me to work but when i ask him if i should get a ride so hes not late he says its fine and even when he can rush to be on time its like he doesnt care. He has also told me if it wasnt for him taking me to work i would have never gotten my promotion. We also have fought because he has gone thru my phone and seen me venting to my friend or mom about him and he gets mad that im talking to people about our problems which i get. I find myself not going out to the bar or anything anymore we always just stay at home and i usually dont go places without him because if i tell him a time and im out longer hes texting or calling. We almost broke up over it the last time and i didnt even have much fun with him repeatedly calling but i also wouldnt talk to him so that was wrong of me. Anytime i talk ab getting a second job its a fight because i dont have a license and we only have my car for when i do get my license back. (this month) the car is breakinv down if i might add. And id hate to say it but i think its his fault. He wants to use it as a trade in for a new car but i dont want to so i have one too for when i get my license back,and thats a fight. We have had 4 or 5 really bad fights and things have gotten violent. For example the last one i was sitting on the stool and he kept pushing my nerves til finally i got so anxious i threw his keys to leave and he came over and put his hands around my throat i ended up getting up and shoving him. He let go and got upset bcause i looked at the knife on the counter thinking i was gonna use it on him. I dont remember the thought ever crossing my mind but idk because i was scared. I also think if i wouldnt have thrown his keys i wouldnt have pushed him to that point. Could someone whos been in long term relationships tell me are these all things were supposed to work past and grow stronger from or am i right to believe that these things arent right?