tamaranne,
here are a list of warning signs and another link on the issue of psychological abuse. I hope they are of some help.
-jjorge
PS good advice from Heeven, Eva, Noddy et al.
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Warning Signs of Abuse
How can you tell if you or someone you know is a victim of psychological abuse? Usually, an abuser relies on certain words & behaviors that work to control his partner. Experts in domestic violence say answering "yes" to any of the following questions is a sign that a relationship is abusive.
Has your partner:
Called you names, made you feel badly about yourself or humiliated you?
Ignored your feelings or withheld approval, appreciation or affection to punish you?
Insulted your most valued beliefs, religion, heritage or class?
Tried to control what you do, with whom you spend time & where you go?
Taken control of the family's finances or prevented you from working?
Threatened to hurt you or your children, or threatened to leave you?
Smashed things, destroyed property, given you looks or made gestures that make you feel afraid or intimidated?
Punished your children when he was angry with you?
Abused pets to hurt you?
Manipulated you with lies & contradictions to make you doubt your grasp of reality? Has your partner ever said "you're crazy" or tried to make you feel that you are crazy?
Laura Gatland, 10.18.99
(from:
http://open-mind.org/News/Abuse/4a.htm )
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http://www.cyberparent.com/abuse/femalemental.htm