feeling better today

I have read your posts about your situation since you started writing. What is it about this other guy's past that should affect your present?

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nothing.

I just found it hard to continue a relationship with him when i knew so many sexual details he'd had with other women. I only want to think about him with ME not the others he told me about.

Re: feeling better today

Do you mean you want to know all the details as long as he wasn't a "pig" or do you want his past kept secret?

I'm sure nearly everyone you meet will have had sex in the past, maybe sex that doesn't appeal to you. That doesn't make them a "pig" it just makes them human.

But I agree with your psyciatrist, it's not "good form" to discuss in intimate detail past sexual relationships. It's also not good form to ask. Of course that's just my opinion.

If I ever have another relationship, (which hopefully I won't if my marriage can be repaired), the only thing I'll want to know about my partner's past will be learned through STD testing. Get tested, stay safe, and there are some things you don't HAVE to know.

A person's past sex life should be private. Each new partner should be seen as an individual, not one in a series.

It's also not a good idea to discuss psychiatric sessions online. Sorry to be a stick in the mud, but you have the right to privacy in all medical matters, and I hate to see people just waive that right.

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I really dont see anything wrong with the fact that i said i'm getting prof help...

I agree, Jes. Anyone can read the pages on this forum without registering, or on most forums, for that matter; one never knows whom anyone is.

Jes didn't say that, mchalel. A lot of us have sought professional help from time to time. It's the smart thing to do. She just said it's not necessarily a good thing to discuss those private sessions online. You'll get a lot of "helpful" advice that isn't really helpful at all. Those sessions are private for a reason!

I wish you the best, and I hope your relationship with your professional counselor brings you clarity and wisdom. We could all use more of that.