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Please help me to understand my situation

 
 
Reply Fri 18 Sep, 2015 04:39 pm
Hi, there:

Well, my situation is weird… this guy that I’m into to… is renting out one of my apartments…. I’m not a poor girl and he knows it. He is not a poor guy and trying to become a politician (currently we are both in Russia but I have been living in Los Angeles for 10 years and going back there soon). He also has his own business. The first time we met, he started to flirt with me and he was really persistent with asking me out for dates. But I rejected them all because I didn’t feel like it (I have not finished relationships in Los Angeles and I told him about it…well I told him im married..but im not). But one time I decided to ask him to party with me and my friend. We had lots of fun, he paid for everything and then we came to my apartment,which he rents out, but nothing happened. I left early in the morning and our relationship stopped there. It all started when just a week ago I needed to collect rent from him and he called me saying he wants to stay longer because I asked him… (well I didn’t ask him back then because I wanted him to stay for personal interest…but just because I need to make income). When we met at that apartment he paid to me but he was really flirting with me and asked me to stay with him – to give him company. We drunk some alcohol and then sex happened…. It was passionate sex. I would say animal plus passion sex. We couldn’t stop until afternoon of the next day but my request to go out and eat was ignored by him. On the next day he texted me saying that even if he wont be chosen as a representative of certain area in our city he was so lucky that he met me (those days were the ones when voting was happening). After that I texted him on next days regarding apartment (that I typed a new agreement so he can stay longer ) and I wished him a luck. The next evening I sent him a very sexy photo of me (in cloth)…on which he didn’t reply. I got offended really much and I was mad at him. Then 2 days later I decided to play a game…. Which I think I already screwed up. I decided I really want this guy and I would like to get him (yes, I don’t call it love but I have feelings for him and I am not sure what I want in the end with him..myself). So I texted him saying that we need to sign an agreement since Im leaving soon for business trip and then Im leaving to Los Angeles. He reacted right away asking me for how long I am leaving and when I am coming back and etc. He even said that what if we would get married…. How would I leave…. On which I said that im not interested in marriage and he replied with saying that I wont get bored with him if he will be my husband…. Then he asked me some things and I decided not to reply intentionally. I knew that we have to come across again because of apartment issues (some things needed to be replaced there) and when I came to take care of those things…. He was in towel,half naked…. Taking a shower. My hands were shaking how I really wanted that man… (crazy sex desire) but I didn’t show a thing. He asked me again when am I coming back on which I said in a week….
The culmination comes to the next night when I decided to go out with another friend (male guy) and as we were sitting in one place….this another guy walks in. I understood my game is over… since I told him that I left…and now I’m sitting with another male in a café… He texted me right away asking basically why did I lie to him … on which I told him to come over.I really wanted that guy sexually… he came and we had a fun night…
The thing is I texted him later in the evening saying I would like to meet up and talk because I actually really wanted to talk to him (not about him but other things). I enjoy his company a lot… but he didn’t text me back or anything. Im hurt again and now I understand my game is over…. I wanted to play hard to get this guy and I lost … also he mentioned lots of times about his ex girlfriends… like trying to show off or something. He also loves cuddling, kissing me, hugging me and holding my hands. Should I just ignore him? The thing is I need to deal with him regardless since he is renting out my apartment….
I would like to understand what is he feeling towards me because his actions are telling me that he is not that interested and then that he is… and he is also playing games with me. I am confused cuz I see myself in him….I don’t think he really knows what he wants. I actually wanted to talk to him about my feelings ...but as I said he didnt reply and I dont think he will.....
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Tes yeux noirs
 
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Reply Fri 18 Sep, 2015 04:41 pm
@TatianaUCLA,
Are you on amphetamine?
dalehileman
 
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Reply Fri 18 Sep, 2015 05:07 pm
@TatianaUCLA,
Tat you might have more success if you divide it into paras with carriage returns and tabs between. In doing so you might want to better organize your thinking or to foreshorten the whole thing. Some points, eg, you might cover in replies to responses
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Fri 18 Sep, 2015 05:14 pm
@Tes yeux noirs,
I'll try to break it down, we'll see if I make it through.

I'm interested since her name involves UCLA, my old school and workplace, but I don't like text walls.
ossobuco
 
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Reply Fri 18 Sep, 2015 05:35 pm
@ossobuco,
quoting and trying to break the text down to paragraphs -

Well, my situation is weird… this guy that I’m into to… is renting out one of my apartments…. I’m not a poor girl and he knows it. He is not a poor guy and trying to become a politician (currently we are both in Russia but I have been living in Los Angeles for 10 years and going back there soon). He also has his own business.

The first time we met, he started to flirt with me and he was really persistent with asking me out for dates. But I rejected them all because I didn’t feel like it (I have not finished relationships in Los Angeles and I told him about it…well I told him im married..but im not). But one time I decided to ask him to party with me and my friend.

We had lots of fun, he paid for everything and then we came to my apartment,which he rents out, but nothing happened. I left early in the morning and our relationship stopped there. It all started when just a week ago I needed to collect rent from him and he called me saying he wants to stay longer because I asked him… (well I didn’t ask him back then because I wanted him to stay for personal interest…but just because I need to make income).

When we met at that apartment he paid to me but he was really flirting with me and asked me to stay with him – to give him company. We drunk some alcohol and then sex happened…. It was passionate sex. I would say animal plus passion sex. We couldn’t stop until afternoon of the next day but my request to go out and eat was ignored by him. On the next day he texted me saying that even if he wont be chosen as a representative of certain area in our city he was so lucky that he met me (those days were the ones when voting was happening).

After that I texted him on next days regarding apartment (that I typed a new agreement so he can stay longer ) and I wished him a luck. The next evening I sent him a very sexy photo of me (in cloth)…on which he didn’t reply. I got offended really much and I was mad at him. Then 2 days later I decided to play a game…. Which I think I already screwed up. I decided I really want this guy and I would like to get him (yes, I don’t call it love but I have feelings for him and I am not sure what I want in the end with him..myself).

So I texted him saying that we need to sign an agreement since Im leaving soon for business trip and then Im leaving to Los Angeles. He reacted right away asking me for how long I am leaving and when I am coming back and etc. He even said that what if we would get married…. How would I leave…. On which I said that im not interested in marriage and he replied with saying that I wont get bored with him if he will be my husband….

Then he asked me some things and I decided not to reply intentionally. I knew that we have to come across again because of apartment issues (some things needed to be replaced there) and when I came to take care of those things…. He was in towel,half naked…. Taking a shower. My hands were shaking how I really wanted that man… (crazy sex desire) but I didn’t show a thing. He asked me again when am I coming back on which I said in a week….

The culmination comes to the next night when I decided to go out with another friend (male guy) and as we were sitting in one place….this another guy walks in. I understood my game is over… since I told him that I left…and now I’m sitting with another male in a café… He texted me right away asking basically why did I lie to him … on which I told him to come over.I really wanted that guy sexually… he came and we had a fun night…

The thing is I texted him later in the evening saying I would like to meet up and talk because I actually really wanted to talk to him (not about him but other things). I enjoy his company a lot… but he didn’t text me back or anything. Im hurt again and now I understand my game is over…. I wanted to play hard to get this guy and I lost … also he mentioned lots of times about his ex girlfriends… like trying to show off or something.

He also loves cuddling, kissing me, hugging me and holding my hands. Should I just ignore him? The thing is I need to deal with him regardless since he is renting out my apartment….
I would like to understand what is he feeling towards me because his actions are telling me that he is not that interested and then that he is… and he is also playing games with me. I am confused cuz I see myself in him….I don’t think he really knows what he wants. I actually wanted to talk to him about my feelings ...but as I said he didnt reply and I dont think he will.....


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Nuts, nothing about UCLA!

Maybe the text is easier to get through now, or maybe not.

I don't think it's amphetamines. just her way of talking and typing.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Fri 18 Sep, 2015 05:51 pm
@TatianaUCLA,
What's the big deal?

He likes sex, you like sex. That's pretty much what it is.
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TatianaUCLA
 
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Reply Fri 18 Sep, 2015 06:13 pm
@ossobuco,
I am sorry.... i dont use drugs in regards to the reply above.Of course I like sex... but firstly I pushed him away because I knew I could have developed some feelings towards him.
Now- I did! I want more than sex. I dont think he can give it to me or he is ready to give me anything. Though he mentions his ex girlfriends of 7 years many times- it does hurt me. I am myself in not finished relationship with other guy (soon to break up).... and he knows that.
If its only about sex, I d better break it apart now because its an emotional roller coaster for me. I hate it.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Fri 18 Sep, 2015 06:31 pm
@TatianaUCLA,
TatianaUCLA wrote:
I am myself in not finished relationship with other guy (soon to break up).... and he knows that.


he knows you are not available.

it might be best if you finish the relationship you're in, spend some time on your own, and then get in touch with him in 6 months or a year
TatianaUCLA
 
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Reply Sat 19 Sep, 2015 07:37 am
@ehBeth,
i dont think thats a big reason.....
i think he is just ignoring me for a reason he doesnt want any relationship with me...though he was just inviting me to take a vacation.... i guess its all BS and he doesnt know what d hell he wants himself
ehBeth
 
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Reply Sat 19 Sep, 2015 07:55 am
@TatianaUCLA,
he's not interested in a relationship with you - whether it's because you're unavailable or whatever other reason

he is interested in sex with you

___

in the meantime, you have an existing relationship to sort out
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AceTen
 
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Reply Tue 22 Sep, 2015 07:18 pm
@Tes yeux noirs,
Hahaha. Great Minds
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AceTen
 
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Reply Tue 22 Sep, 2015 07:19 pm
@ossobuco,
You even dislike broken English text walls??
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AceTen
 
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Reply Tue 22 Sep, 2015 07:22 pm
@TatianaUCLA,
I second ehbeth, end your current relationship and take some time to think. If this guy is your soul mate then you'll find a way together, no matter the time.

And if it wasn't meant to work, time saved.
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CoastalRat
 
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Reply Wed 23 Sep, 2015 06:23 am
You have been playing games with him from the start. You told him you were married, but you are not. You told him you were going out of town, but you were not.

You are a game player. If I were this guy, any personal relationship would be finished. Do you really think guys (or gals for that matter) like being lied to? Grow up.
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