Love Worth Waiting For?

Hello all,

I have a situation I currently need some advice for. I think I'm doing the right thing with this woman but I'll let you all see from a different perspective.

So, I was living in Germany a year ago and I decided to get a roommate to live with me. This slightly younger lady (I'm 29 now and she is 28) I met I started spending time with her and we kind of got close. One night we had an incredible time together out at a dance club and spontaneously began kissing and dancing. It felt like we were the only two people in the world and I know she felt it too. What began there ended in the bedroom. We had sex together and it was very good. I never could have imagined getting involved with a roommate but it just kind of happened.

Fast forward a bit and I lose my job, I had to leave Germany and return to the USA. Both of us have kept in close communication ever since. We even spoke on the phone or texted each other nearly every day.

Now things have gotten a bit complicated. She has told me that this guy she has known for awhile suddenly has declared his love for her. HOWEVER, this guy was already married!!! That's right, he is married and cheated on his wife with her. He claims to be divorcing his wife for her now. Her life is rather complicated, and she lost her job before so now she tells me she has very little options and wants to move in with him by the end of the month.

Recently I have started falling for her....harder than I thought. I think about her a lot and I even sent her roses all the way to Germany that she really enjoyed. I told her that I am planning on returning for my Master's degree and she should wait for me by the end of November. It doesn't look like that's going to happen. I am simply not there and this guy is putting too much pressure over her and manipulating her completely. Probably promising her security.

She is REALLY INSECURE about herself. She always liked to send me photos of herself and ask me what I thought of her.

It seems like she is having trouble appreciating a good guy like me and this jerk is now in the picture instead.

My question is: Is it unfair of me to ask her to choose me over him since I haven't been back there in a year?

How should I handle this situation, do I wait for her to go through a trial with this guy and hope that she will wise up?

Is it possible to stay friends with her during this time?

Am I in a pretty good position as the "good guy" who will be patient and love her in the end? Is this relationship she wants to be in now likely to fail?

There is likely to be a lot of trust issues between her and this guy, not to mention she's moving in with him too soon and will be dependent on him for awhile. The whole situation is just bad.

She wants me to come back to Germany, and I do plan on it. Just not quite soon enough, unfortunately.

Please give me some needed advice.

Thanks in advance.