are we allowed to feel jealous after strio clubs

I took my husband out for his birthday with a group of friends. After i was a little drunk his friend said we should head to the strip club. I thought nothing of it. As soon as we got there his friend was like im buying him a lap dance. Also wasnt too upset until i found out he paid the extra money to have the stripper take him into a private room and take her panties off and she was rubbing herself all over him. I feel like its so disrepectful to me. He also made me feel unwanted. Im willing to let it go. But i wanted to talk about how i felt and he practically called me crazy for having feelings... i trust him and he tells me it makes him feel closer to me but i feel like he practically cheated by having her get butt ass naked and practically have sex.. help!