Toxic Relationship
SueZCue wrote:Unfortunately, one manipulative or toxic person can upset the apple cart and cause ripple effects that can last for a lifetime.
A few nights ago, his ex-girlfriend called at nearly 1:00 in the morning asking to speak to my son. I told her it was too late to be calling, I hung up, and I unplugged the phones from the walls. I felt guilty, but I was so AFRAID that she would get him on the phone and plead with him to get back together and work on their relationship. He could be vulnerable enough to be sucked in again.
I "confessed" to my son, told him what happened, and acknowledged that it was NOT my decision whether he should talk to her--that was HIS decision. I again told him how much I love him and how much I want to protect him, but I will respect his wishes. "If she calls again in the wee hours of the morning, should I wake you up to take the call?"
He told me no--he doesn't want to talk to her and he doesn't want to see her. We had a good talk. Just to be on the safe side, however, I unplug the phones every night before I go to bed.