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Sun 11 Jul, 2004 12:08 am
The stereotype is that men lie to get sex. They'll say I love you, they'll tell you they're rich, they'll embellish their sexual prowess, etc.
So what? Those are surface lies that don't mean a thing. Women lie in a different way. The way they look is a lie. Women wear make-up, get their hair done, the nails, the push-up bras, the colored contact lenses...jesus, I was just out a bar, and I was thinking to myself, damn that girl is so beautiful, but what does she really look like?
How do you expect men to ever understand you when the first thing they see from you is this untrue, embellished version of "you"? What makes you think a guy is going to be honest if you come off from the very first moment with a misrepresentation of yourself?
Just wondering,
Kicky
Both men and women lie, not all fortunately, and not for a long time.
Unless you are a psycologist it is difficult to understand the personality of a man or woman soon. It requires time and experience.
I have come to the conclusion that the better they appear, the less they worth.
You're wondering why people in bars aren't honest? Are you kidding? That was the birthplace of pick-up lines long before telepersonal dating services, the internet or personal ads. No one who looks to hook up in any of these ways is honest. You just noticed that??
Have you heard that the Beatles broke up?
SueZCue- Having gone to bars in my younger days, I know exactly what you are saying. It is a game. It is theatre. There can be no expectation that anyone is telling the truth. I think that is why, when I finally caught on, I dropped that method of meeting people!
What you're all saying is true, but it is not the whole truth. I met my husband in a bar in 1981. We laugh and tell people it's kind of like a one-night stand that's lasted for 23 years.
zirknitz wrote:I have come to the conclusion that the better they appear, the less they worth.
That is a great comment.
I realize that it's all a game. And no, I didn't just figure this out. It just bugs me, that's all. Bars are the dumbest places to try to meet "real" women. Maybe I'm just over the whole bar scene.
Eva, my brother met his wife in a bar too, and they've been married for about ten years. But stories of people who met in bars like this are the equivalent of stories about people who smoked all their lives and lived to be 90. They only serve to get dopes like me to think "Hey, it's possible."
I know, kicky. It happens, but the odds are definitely against it. I guess it's kind of like playing the lottery. (Don't hit me!
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pffft, I don't wear makeup, dye my hair or alter my looks (wellI do pluck and shave) otherwise. So there.
And you also don't seem to be a phony in any way on A2k either. Hmmm...you are probably a real "catch".
I dunno about that. But, I'm no hypocrite
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