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Femguy
 
Reply Sat 18 Jul, 2015 10:18 pm
I have an issue on who I want to be with relationship wise . I really don't want to be gay but my feelings are feminine and I kinda notice guys more than girls . Is this something that I should let my body decide if I want to be with either sex ? I comfortable with bisexual but I lean toward younger guys . Could it be a chemical imbalance or dose being malested at in childhood gives you these feelings . I'm not out to my family and I feel that is something that I choose to keep private . I feel like I've been robbed a straight life .
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jespah
 
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Reply Sun 19 Jul, 2015 06:44 am
@Femguy,
Where to begin?

Being gay, or bi, or het, is something you're born with. It doesn't come from chemical imbalances or molestation (although I caution you that (a) we are still learning about the human brain and (b ) being molested will certainly **** anyone up in all sorts of ways).

Behaving feminine (I wish I knew what that meant, seeing as women aren't one size fits all) doesn't make a man gay; behaving masculine (ditto) doesn't make him het. Instead, it's your attractions. Macho men can be turned on by other men. Metrosexual men can be turned on by women. These aren't square pegs in square holes - there is a spectrum.

I suggest counseling to you - strongly. Not only to help you find out who you are, but also to deal with feeling that you've been ripped off. Figure out who you are - which is wonderful no matter who makes your heart race.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Sun 19 Jul, 2015 08:11 am
What do you mean by "feminine feelings?"

Thinking things does not mean anything.

There's who you are, who you want to be and who you want to make love to.

You don't say how old you are. Maybe you just have not lived long enough or had enough experience to figure all this out.
Femguy
 
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Reply Sun 19 Jul, 2015 01:58 pm
@PUNKEY,
Emotional and feminine feeling are like the female in a male / female relationship and I'm well enough to know what I like . I'm would say that I favor the female side to dominatance that the male . I have female characteristics like small body features and I think that is why I like guys over girls not saying that I don't like girls . That's why I feel sometimes that if my childhood friend robbed me from being completely strait guy instead of living a bi sexual lifestyle . Just being curious
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