@Ashlea1993,
There's nothing wrong with emotional fights - just traumatic fights. Ie. one or both of you may (or may not - it's just a list):
- become manipulative when fighting (which never helps anything, but can turn nasty)
- turns the others viewpoint into something it's not, in order to manipulate the situation
- hurls insults / abuse / attacks with intent to hurt (degrees from mild to vicious)
- has to win at all costs
- gets angry enough to frighten the other into silence
- etc
Those are the higher end.
Respectful fights on the other hand - either one can be angry (which is perfectly alright if it's not abusive), and:
- neither party degrades / abuses the other
- may be strident in their viewpoint, but listen to others
- even while angry, they listen to the others position and use that to try and find common ground (rather than to manipulate the conversation)
Also, the makeup afterwards (if it's necessary) has empathy, and an awareness of differences, and even your own flaws.