Mon 29 Jun, 2015 05:34 am
Hi all, i havent done this before but I have searched the internet to try and find someone in the same situation but maybe its not talked about often. In nov my boyfriend of 3 years proposed to me and I said, not no but maybe. I had always wanted to marry him but a few months before we had a rough patch, I have moved to his hometown, and we live close to his mother which sometimes can be a bit hard, as my family and friends live quite far away. To be honest I was rethinking everything when he proposed. it was lovely and he is amazing but in the moment my gut was telling me not to say yes. this was 6 months ago and he now wants an answer...which is completely acceptable as its not fair to go on in limbo. I just feel the moment is gone, plus I have spoken to family and close friends so I feel it will be unnatural and I am just worrying about it in general. I guess I am worrying about everything now, instead of taking a risk. does anyone have advice?
Yes. Listen to your own instincts.
Something is telling you that this is not all OK between you two.
You marry his family, too. If they are a problem now, then that will be brought into the marriage.
Don't lead him on. Move out. Get a place by yourself where you want to live. Start over. He can come into your life then.