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Wed 3 Jun, 2015 09:23 pm
My ex and i dated for a couple months. The last month was really rocky, we agreed that we should be friends. But ever since that conversation we have been acting more like a couple then we ever did when we were together.especially him, he always texts me sweet things, he asks me out to dinner and pays for me, he wants to do sexual things with me, hes always doing me favors. I just dont get it, why all of a sudden does he wanna change now that were not together? He was the one who decided to be just my friend and now he wants to act different. Please someone help me understand lbvs! Also what should i do, i really want to try again with him but im scared to talk to him about it because i dont want to ruin whats going on right now, this is the smoothest things have been for a while, but the other part of me thinks i should talk to him about it. Ugh help!
@brazilian016,
Here's my guess (and only a guess). After all he's the only one who ultimately can give the answer. Somehow he felt boxed-in ... pressured. This might have had nothing to do with you..directly. It could be something in his head. He has some fears about commitment or issues around feeling trapped while within a relationship. I can't tell you for sure. Only he can and he will when the time is right for him; however, that may or may not work for you
But, if everything is going well as you say, let it be for a little while ... if you can handle that. After all, it's good when it's good, right?
@Ragman,
I think Ragman gave the best advice.
Some people like the excitement of the chase.
A dog chases a car. But doesn't know what to do with it once it's caught.
@brazilian016,
I think ragman has it.
The guy sounds like he is more comfortable when he doesn't feel like he is in an exclusive dating relationship.
You were dating before, you're dating now.
Enjoy it and don't get caught up in defining what it is or what it is called.
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What would be the upside of talking to him about it? seriously. You're dating. Relax.
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