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Wed 27 May, 2015 09:36 pm
I'm a 16 yr old sophomore in high school. I have a really bipolar self-image. Sometimes I think I am extremely good looking, and other times...not so much (mostly when I see myself in weird angles in pictures). I've never had a girlfriend. I'm pretty sheltered (not really from my parents but from myself. I'm not antisocial, but I'd rather stay at home and be on the computer), so I'm not entirely familiar with teenage girl psychology.
So anyway, in class, I had to do a group presentation. I was with my best friend (a guy) and a girl, Kate (pretty attractive). During the presentation, I was cracking some jokes and making people laugh (how I survive boring, tedious things about school). When we sat back down at our desks, I heard two other girls (Jessica and Olga, more attractive that Kate) talking go Kate. They weren't talking loud, but they weren't whispering either. When I started listening, it was already in the middle of the convo, but I think I caught on to what they were saying. I'll attempt to transcribe....:
Jessica: You totally should. You're both smart, you're both white as hell (I'm a very pale young man lol)
Olga: I mean it's not like "oh my god, he's hot!", but he's a cutie....a cutie with a booty (I don't know what makes guy butts attractive).
So I assume they were talking about me, given the context of what was going on in class, and I assume they were convincing Kate to....go out with me, I guess?
Another time, the teacher in class called my name to answer a question. I wasn't paying attention, so I paused for three seconds, sighed, yawned, and said, "what?". I didn't think it was that funny, but everyone laughed, and then Olga said out loud, "he's cute isn't he?".
So my question to you lovely folks is, should I be flattered, or is this just something to forget about? I won't pursue anything, but it would give me a needed confidence boost if I know that what was said about me is a good thing. Thanks!
@yohomeboii,
If it helps you to feel they were saying positive things about you then, by all means, believe that.
But they aren't necessarily talking about you.
And!
You don't need external validation to make you feel good about yourself.
A person builds confidence by DOING, by ACCOMPLISHING things.
NOT from what a bunch of giggling girls say about him or how he looks in a mirror.