He games with him till about 10 or so, but I go in most nights and ask him to turn it down or off, which he chooses down. It started he was coming when him and his new step dad would get into it. (Last time it was because he wasn't allowed to use the 4wheeler) then it became more frequent until he just leaves on weekend so he can take his girlfriend to his mom's to stay.
I think you hit the nail on the head. I don't mind him staying, but it's the difference in we have 6 other kids that have strict rules and chores. Is it too much for me to ask for him to help out or get a job? My fiancé is touchy with him because raising him he had no say in rules or discipline, so I don't want to cross any boundries. Let me add he CAN NOT tell him no, so I'm more of a third wheel when he's here. If he was my kid at 19, he'd be getting a job and paying a minimum rent here. Is that too much to ask? Also do you feel it should come from him, or would it be OK coming from me? This is so new to me because he hasn't been my responsibility for the last 4 years. It was, and still is hard enough blending his 4 adopted kids with my 2.