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Mon 4 May, 2015 09:08 am
I've been with my boyfriend for around 4 years. Around 9 months ago I had to move to Asia for work, and his work kept him in the UK. The last time I saw him was around 6 months ago and due to the time difference and our work schedule we rarely get chance to talk. This is not to say my feelings toward him have changed, I still love him and he is my best friend, but as difficult as it is to admit, I have cheated on him.
I've felt attractions to people before (its natural) but I've never acted on it whilst in a relationship, however I get on really well with someone I work with whom I happen to find attractive, and to cut a long story short, we were drinking and before I knew it we were kissing. I knew I shouldve stopped it at the time but it felt so good and honestly I didn't want to. One thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. This happened on his last night of working at the company as he has moved, so I know it won't happen again.
However, I don't know if its worse that I have more than just an attraction to him or not and every time I think of my boyfriend I feel ridiculously guilty and like I should tell him. I don't want to lose him and I know I've done wrong and no one should be cheated on, but some selfish part of me wants to keep it a secret to keep us together. But then I think surely our long distance can't be working if I've done this? I'm really confused and if anyone could offer any advice it would be so well appreciated.
What are your ages?
You and BF should have discussed this before leaving. Long distance does not work when the couple is young.
Bet he is doing the same thing.