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Reply Wed 29 Apr, 2015 04:36 pm
I think i'm in love with my mom's boyfriend's son.(my future step brother). I know some people think its weird but its not like we are biologically related so it doesn't bother us. I met him when i was 9 years old. That was also the first time i met his father, whom i love very much. There have always been something between me and his son. Everyone always knew it even though never said anything trough the years. About a year ago me and him actually decided to give it a shot and verbally admit that we had feelings for each other. We kept it between us though cause we weren't officially in a committed relationship. but that bliss ended soon. cause a few weeks later we had an argument(our first one).Though i see him all the time cause our parents are still together, ever since that night we haven't had a real conversation and we've both only had a "relationship" with one other person since then. No one knows about our relationship or fight except us. So when we are around each other there is tension. I was talking to his dad and his dad said that he knows that there is something going on between us. I wont tell him what happened though. Our fight we had was never sorted out or dealt with. It just happened and ended and that was it, we didn't question or try to figure it out. But i put effort into fixing things and trying to start over and at least be friends again but its like every time i try to spark up a conversation he shuts it down and puts up a wall. He doesn't even acknowledge my existence when i'm around and its heart breaking. He isn't girl crazy though. He isn't a man whore. He is respectful. but anyways a swear i think he hates me. but i cant tell what it is. His dad tells me that he was talking about taking me to prom this year. but i was like no he wasnt he hates me. he never talk to me or anything and his dad said that its because he is shy and thinks im cute and that he likes me. His dad said that he had no reason to lie to me about that. Which i dont think his dad would lie to me. His father is a good guy and he loves me lie his own daughter. but if what he said is true then why hasnt his son ever just said anything to me. I miss him so much but cant tell him cause im afraid of rejection. Should i just take a leap of faith and just tell him that i miss him or let it go?
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Reply Wed 29 Apr, 2015 04:56 pm
@nkaykae212,
You should always have closure in my opinion if that is what you want.

By that I mean, you two never spoke after the argument and you should have so that you could both understand what occurred and why.

What was the argument about? If you don't mind me asking.

Maybe if you both had the chance to discuss "that" you both may laugh about it now (or work towards that) so that eases the tension and allows you both to openly decide and discuss what it is that you mean to each other and then proceed from there.

People aren't mind readers.
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Reply Wed 29 Apr, 2015 05:08 pm
@FOUND SOUL,
Our fight was stupid. I didnt want to hang out with him and his friends just because i didn't. I didn't feel up to it. I wasnt mad at him or mad at all. So he kept asking what was wrong and i said nothing was wrong because NOTHING was wrong, i just didn't feel like hanging out with them at the time but he kept taking it as "something is wrong i just wont tell him". Which led to him saying some things that im sure he didnt mean and walking out and we haven't spoke about it since.
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Reply Wed 29 Apr, 2015 05:10 pm
@nkaykae212,
Do you think maybe he's concerned that you really are worried about him being your step-brother and that's why you didn't go?

See why you have to discuss it?
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Reply Wed 29 Apr, 2015 05:39 pm
Yes. I realize that we have things to discuss but i feel like if i try to strike up a conversation with him its just going to get shot down. Which is what happens. Im also afraid that something worse could happen and he could completely go off on me or tell me to leave or that he doesn't care about me at all. Which i don't think he would do because he IS a nice guy and what his dad tells me i'm sure is somewhat true. I just can't find it in me to swallow my pride and say something about it. Im waiting on him to make move which he obviously isn't going to so i guess it is up to me right?
FOUND SOUL
 
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Reply Thu 30 Apr, 2015 03:28 pm
@nkaykae212,
There is nothing wrong with being the person to speak, gone are the days where it "should" be the male.

It's obvious to me that this is eating at you, so to answer your question YES!

Lighten it up, be jovial with it and what ever the outcome it has to be better than sitting back wondering every single day.
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