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I am a trans woman, I'd like to talk about it

 
 
Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 10:39 am
Some of you might remember me from years ago (my first post was 11 years ago), others might remember me by JoeFX which was my previous name on here. I stopped posting a while back but I still hold A2K dear to my heart and I came back last year briefly.

Today I post this because there is little discussion on trans issues on this forum and I think if there was another openly trans person on here 8 years ago I might have realized the obvious before and transitioned earlier. But here I am, a 30 year old woman living in Mexico City in a very good place right now. I'd like to talk about anything regarding this topic, so feel free Smile

This might end up just me saying hi, so Hello!
 
ehBeth
 
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Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 10:41 am
@Pantalones,
Hello Pantalones. It's always good to see you posting.
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 10:53 am
@Pantalones,
Hi, Pantalones. Very good to read you are here again. I'll be listening, at the least.

Hey, I've missed you in fantasy baseball..
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edgarblythe
 
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Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 10:55 am
@Pantalones,
I remember you. I have little to say that is relevant to the topic. Just wanted to welcome you back.
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Ragman
 
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Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 11:07 am
Welcome back. Having such a friendly face is a welcome thing to A2K community. I don't recall you exactly, other to remember your nickname was familiar.

I've a (former) grand-niece who is now my grand-nephew after successful surgery. He has made a great adjustment. I don't know much other than this transition was successful besides an infrequent note and some pics on FB. I sent him good wishes, of course. Takes a brave person to make such a change.
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George
 
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Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 11:41 am
Hi right back atcha.

I, too, remember you from Fanatsy Baseball.

A friend of mine had a daughter who is now a son. He seems to be
handling it well. I don't whether I would. How are your mother and
father doing with it?
Pantalones
 
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Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 12:20 pm
@George,
Thanks to everyone for the kind greetings. And it's great hearing that some of you have people that have been through something similar (sorta) nearby.

My mother is totally on my team now, but it took a lot of talks and tears with her for both of us to assimilate the situation with each other. A lot changed the first time she saw me wearing girl clothes and makeup (even if it was an everyday jeans and shirt look)

My dad is a little farther behind in the process, he has changed to calling me with female pronouns recently and I'm very happy for that. I think the biggest change for him was seeing me everyday for 3 weeks when I came back home to visit them on Christmas and hearing how my mom, my brother and my sister-in-law referred to me.

I believe they still struggle with the idea, I know I still find it kind of odd every once in a while. But I'm very grateful that they were supportive even when they were not fully accepting. I love my family more today than ever before.
George
 
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Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 01:36 pm
@Pantalones,
I'm speaking from ignorance and assumptions here, so forgive anything
stupid. I would think that, culturally, Mexico would be a difficult place to go
through this.
jespah
 
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Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 01:39 pm
@Pantalones,
Yay, you're back! W00t!
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Pantalones
 
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Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 02:01 pm
@George,
Most of Mexico, sure, I'd say the same thing but Mexico City is super forward thinking on that regard. A few years back they made it possible to legally change your name and gender over here via a trial and just a couple of months ago a new bill passed that makes it so it's just a routine procedure like I understand is in California. We don't even need a letter from a doctor.

I know I'm very privileged and that I can afford to live on the LGBT-friendly part of the city and I seldom wander off these zones. So I can't comment on a broader sense since my experience is limited and fairly new but I haven't had a single problem with it.

Most other things I feel that are the same in all other places where transitioning is more or less accepted: few weird looks here and there specially at the beginning when people can't place you in one gender box or another, a couple of comments but so far I haven't been openly discriminated against or had any huge issues, culturally speaking.
roger
 
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Reply Thu 9 Apr, 2015 03:03 pm
@Pantalones,
Good to see you back. I used to enjoy your posts, and expect to in the future.
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Thu 23 Jul, 2015 01:17 pm
Saying 'hi' to Pants.
<thinking of you as I'm losing in this week's fantasy baseball>
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hawkeye10
 
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Reply Thu 23 Jul, 2015 01:35 pm
I think it is obscene that insurance premium payers are forced to foot the bill for this kind of elective surgery. Or that the government does, and according to the courts has to. This should be paid by private funds of the one who wants surgeons to remake their body.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Thu 23 Jul, 2015 03:53 pm
@Pantalones,
Welcome back...lovely to see you!!!!
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Setanta
 
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Reply Thu 23 Jul, 2015 05:56 pm
Wait a minnit . . . who wears the pantalones in this family, eh?
ossobuco
 
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Reply Thu 23 Jul, 2015 05:58 pm
@Setanta,
A bunch of us. Mine are lime green.
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Setanta
 
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Reply Thu 23 Jul, 2015 06:01 pm
Mine are short and tan, unlike myself.
ossobuco
 
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Reply Thu 23 Jul, 2015 06:05 pm
@Setanta,
..just imagining
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Pantalones
 
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Reply Sat 25 Jul, 2015 03:47 am
@Setanta,
I do, most of the times. Hooray for the progressive thinking that made this possible in the last century!
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HesDeltanCaptain
 
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Reply Mon 3 Aug, 2015 10:38 am
@Pantalones,
Nice to know the site I only just joined has been around for at least 11 years. Smile

Thanks for offering to discuss things, very kind to do so.
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