@layman,
You seem to be going round in circles perhaps because you have a block on the complete symmetry of
special relativity. The initial scenario for the twins is
general relativity and that implies asymmetry. All we need understand is that
who is moving"at constant velocity is arbitrary but
who was accelerated is not, because that accelerated one is subsequently deemed "the faster" or "the mover" and is seen by the other (through his hypothetical binoculars) as living in slow motion. The "faster mover" of course sees his own pace of life as "normal". (Star Trek has done the whole thing !)
I don't need to justify the
aging issue as a function of acceleration, only the asymmetrical difference in identity of the twins as relatively "faster" or "slower".
I don't think I can make it clearer than that,