Confused, really tired of this..

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Hi, (sorry for my broken eng) i'm not sure if i've turned to a full psycho person
and i have some issues about relationships ..
i've 4 years relationship and we broke up. Then 2 months later he came back asking to be friend.
It was hard for me because i still love him with the broken trust, he lied and stuff
and he doesn't even wanna work on that so he's just want to be around me, hang out
have a good time. He choose to be friend because friends don't have right to be jealous or be mad at him or argue. i'd call it selfish.

After a month i can't hold it anymore because i'm still getting jealous, So I told him " if you want to be with me whether in a relationship or friend then give me a trust or at least don't hurt me the way you did again" ... He said he will try , n we were trying and we doesn't feel comfortable at all. Cause he hates me asking with who ,where, when, why

It's haunted me I'm just afraid that he's gonna lie to me again, when i asked him for turning the cam on to make sure he's home , i know it's just too much and he always get angry if i asked him to. I just feel terrible with his reaction.
I didn't want to do that but to make me trust him again i just got to do it like that.

The trust was broken so i can't really control myself ,being like this it's just a psychopath

At this point i just want to give up and no more contact, waiting to get over it
but i'm not sure this is the right decision cause he can make me happy today and hurt me again tomorrow , i'm really tired with the questions in my head
wonder where he is when he turns his phone off at night, is he lying again.. is he having side-chicks or am i a side-chick?
i'm just tired of these

i want him to be happy but i want myself to be happy too

this is not gonna work is it..?
what should i do ?

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HOW does this man "make you happy?"

You sound miserable with him. He sounds like a cheater.

You have settled for crumbs from this guy.

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@PUNKEY,

thanks for reply Smile

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well.. some part of him just makes me happy ( for a short time )
it just brings back the memories from the first year like every couple
and i was hoping we could bring it back
but yea.. its just mixed , that's why i can't choose
what is better I can't even compare Sad

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i don't know if i'm too much?/ psycho or not?
I hoped someday he would help me to get through it

He ask me to fix myself of not going psycho
if he say he's not lying he's not lying
things that haunted me I am the one who have to fix it
it's my fault to mix and match things that can not be proved .. like when he's turning his phone off

i don't really know anymore is it my fault,
do i really have to fix myself without him helping me?

4 years is hard to forget .. seriously

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@Lila7,

No, it isn't going to work, and a clean break would be better for you. Don't worry about what's better for him.

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@roger,

Ouch! xD

thank you for reply.

maybe i worry about myself of losing love
less than losing the pain

i will try to walk away

i think it's already end .. guess nothing can cure this Neutral

can't admit love just has died

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@Lila7,

Yes, it's going to be sad for you, but think about it: you are going to be rid a person who tells you that YOU are crazy! And, really, he thinks you are so stupid that you will believe it's all your fault. What a manipulator!

Make a break of it. No - YOU are not psycho (thinking wrong) - HE is.

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@Lila7,

i can feel that it is really hard for you to leave maybe bcoz uv been together for too long and u feel that ur world revolves around him. beliv me, it is really hard to get out in that relationship at first. it will hurt you and its like it will make u crazy for thinking over and over.

but gurl, u have to get out into that relationship. its not healthy for you nor for him. it will just make you both miserable.

maybe the guy feels like he needs freedom. freedom from u wr no one will constantly ask him where, who, when coz that will irritate them

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@Lila7,

LET GO! You sound miserable being friends. Seems like you're a convenience when you want to be a priority! If that's the case. You aren't going to change him (not should you try). You need more time away to heal yourself!

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@PUNKEY,

Live and Let Live. go with this saying and you will surely find peace to enjoy your life in the most beautiful way rather than depending om such a bull **** cheater. You are losing your importance and prestige. Be a winner, be happy and make him feel jealous that you can still be happy without him.

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