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Being Lesbian in Chile

 
 
dlowan
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:26 pm
Of course, if we do not want homosexuals, we also ought not to allow straight people to conceive or raise children - since nearly 100% of gay people are born to, and raised by, straight people.
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MyOwnUsername
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:26 pm
group is different - it doesn't have anything with relationship, it's more like "females taking care of children, males getting food for all of them" thing.
I mean, I am not saying that you are not right at all, you might be right...I haven't heard for animal lesbian couple raising kids, but I am not saying that it certainly doesn't exist...
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MyOwnUsername
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:30 pm
dlowan wrote:
Of course, if we do not want homosexuals, we also ought not to allow straight people to conceive or raise children - since nearly 100% of gay people are born to, and raised by, straight people.


you are right. or, you would be right if anyone here would say that it's not okay to give children to homosexual couple because of possibility they will become homosexuals.

if "no they haven't - four of them" was also aimed to me - I was talking about children which is clearly noted in one of previous posts and I think it would be really really nice to read posts before just jumping in out of context. Not that you have to. I just think it would be nice.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:32 pm
MOU, what you'll find (googling is handy for just this sort of thing) is males for impregnation, and then females in couples/groups raise the young, and maintain the group/pack. The males leave the pack, travel as groups of males or solitarily. The females hunt, kill, feed, clean, groom... Bonding between female pair/group members is not unusual. The males do, of course, in many species participate further, but female bonding and raising of young is not rare.
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MyOwnUsername
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:34 pm
okay, okay, you win Wink
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:39 pm
I'm not a great fan of the cut and paste but ...

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In Search of the 'Gay Gene'

By Jack Lucentini
Special to The Washington Post
Monday, February 19, 2001; Page A15


Evolutionary biologists have long wondered why homosexuality exists. Since homosexuality does not directly result in the passing of genes to future generations -- evolution's driving force -- it seems odd that it persists in so many societies.


A small but growing group of researchers, however, says evidence from both human and animal societies suggests that same-sex attraction does, in fact, have an important evolutionary function.


"The recognition of how widespread same-sex courtship is, and that it has an adaptive significance, is a growing trend," said Joan Roughgarden, a biologist at Stanford University.
The primary function that same-sex attraction provides, scientists like Roughgarden argue, is that it promotes the formation of alliances that help the parties involved outlive, outperform and even outreproduce competitors.


"We're using some newer concepts about sexual behavior," said Frank Muscarella of Barry University in Florida, who offered support for this theory in the fall issue of the Journal of Homosexuality.


Mainstream scientists remain skeptical. The new theories rely on studies suggesting that same-sex relationships are, or have been, far more common than traditionally believed, a conclusion that skeptics question.


"My feeling is that evolutionary theory mainly helps us understand why most people are heterosexual, and why homosexuality is rare -- it's not reproductively productive," said Lee Ellis, a sociologist at Minot State University in North Dakota. "Evolution isn't very good at explaining oddities," he added. "It mainly explains where most people are."


and more in a bit
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ebrown p
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:39 pm
MyOwnUsername wrote:
group is different - it doesn't have anything with relationship, it's more like "females taking care of children, males getting food for all of them" thing.
I mean, I am not saying that you are not right at all, you might be right...I haven't heard for animal lesbian couple raising kids, but I am not saying that it certainly doesn't exist...


I haven't heard of animal couples sending their kids to summer camp, or giving them innoculations or even making them do their math homework.

I don't see how animal behavior can be used as a model for humans.

But,

This idea of "females taking care of children" bothers me. I am a male who takes care of my children. Thankfully I am happily married and this will hopefully never be an issue, but my maleness does not dimish the fact I am fully capable to raise my kids.

No one has responded to the fact that this case nowithstanding, fathers seem to get routinely shafted in Chile for the same backwards reason.

Assuming that the woman is more capable because she is a mother is just as offensive as assuming that the man is more capable because he is straight.
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Sam1951
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:41 pm
MyOwn...

Elephants, strict matriarchy, heards are all female and immature calves. When a bull calf starts smelling like a bull his mother and the rest of the heard force him to leave. Elephant bulls live alone or in small all male groups except when mating.

There are fish that can change from female to male. If there are no males to fertilize the eggs one or more of the females will chang to fill the gap.

The problem with using animals as an analogy is that they can not communicate clearly with us. We have to make "educated" (sometimes biased by human ideas of behavior) guess as to what their behaviors mean. A cow Elk that is ready to mate will mount her harem bull to signal her interest. Spend time around domestic cattle and you will see every combination imaginable. When male Mink fight the winner frequently castrates the looser who the frequently bleeds to death.

unfortunately there are parts of society that practice "my way or the highway".

I have never felt that a persons sex was important. I do not see men and women I see people. In my younger days, when I thought that a Bar was a good place to socialize, I preferred to go to "gay bars". There I never had to say, "No, thankyou." more than once and usually spent the evening chatting with the person I had turned down. There was never any pressure to do anything I did not want to.

Bottom line we are all people. What goes on in the bedroom is no one elses business. Sexual orientation does not make one either a "bad" parent or a "good" parent. Until you need to pass a test in order to reproduce or adopt the children will still get "pot luck".

Sam
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:45 pm
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But proponents counter that most human and animal societies have been teeming with same-sex attraction -- the real fluke is Western culture's recently developed aversion to it.
For another thing, they say bisexuals far outnumber homosexuals. This idea allows them to raise the possibility that an animal could use benefits gained from a homosexual liaison, such as higher status, to reproduce more or care for offspring better.


"Most individuals who engage in homosexual behavior are, in practice, bisexual," wrote R.C. Kirkpatrick, a biodiversity specialist with the Nature Conservancy, an environmental group, who authored another paper on the subject in the June issue of Current Anthropology.
Both researchers advocate dropping the distinction between "gay" and "straight" individuals. Nature makes no such distinction, and neither did most humans throughout history, they say. Research should focus on a more neutral, simple concept of homosexual or homoerotic behavior, according to the researchers.


The two researchers cite an array of examples that they say show how such activity could boost one's chances of survival and reproductive success. Kirkpatrick's paper cited studies on animals and on various stages of Greek, Chinese, Japanese and U.S. culture.


Among the Sambia of New Guinea, homosexual interactions among warriors may solidify ties vital for mutual defense, Kirkpatrick argues. In some Melanesian societies, 17th-century Japan and ancient Athens, men were actually expected to be attracted to other men. The ancient Greeks' propensity for homoerotic bonds usually involved an older, higher-status male and a younger "client," who gained prestige and status through the liaison, the researchers say.
In each case, homosexual bonds helped bring success and status, the authors argue. For males of most species, higher status means more access to mates.


This sets up a classic evolutionary argument: Organisms displaying homosexual activity would produce more offspring, passing their traits to successive generations.


The examples the two researchers cite aren't limited to humans, or to males.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:49 pm
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Among bonobos, a type of chimpanzee, young females typically emigrate to a new group, where they promptly initiate sexual contact with dominant females. "They form 'friendships' and alliances with established females that allow them to become integrated into the group, and more importantly, allow them access to food resources," Muscarella wrote.


He acknowledged that the theory has yet to pass crucial tests, such as a study of whether homosexually leaning animals indeed have more offspring.


The new research draws in part from a 1999 book by biologist Bruce Bagemihl, who also wrote that homosexual activity serves underappreciated social and family roles.


The book, "Biological Exuberance," offers evidence from the animal world that homosexuality is common: lesbian pairs in several gull, goose and tern species raising young without male help; male black swan pairs raising cygnets on their own, using the female as little more than a temporary device for procreation.


In a book scheduled for publication next year, "Evolution's Rainbow," Roughgarden speculates that same-sex relations may have evolved as a glue for coalition-building among animals, including humans.


This hypothesis "also explains homophobia," she said. "Same-sex coalition building is usually a threat to a hierarchy. That sets up a tension, and the alpha male is going to try to break up the coalition."


No one has documented such events among animals, she acknowledged, but then again, "no one has looked."


Attempts to explain homosexuality in evolutionary terms aren't new. In past decades, some scientists speculated that evolution retained a "homosexuality gene" only because it occurred with some other, beneficial gene.
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Sam1951
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:53 pm
ebrown_p

Fathers tend to get the short end of the stick in most societys. I find this to be rather blind as a female can be as abusive a male if not more so. I would have given my eye teeth to have lived with my Dad only, my Mom was abusive in many overt and covert ways.

I think having two parents regardless of their sex is good. I know GLBT couples, both male and female that have children and are doing a great job of parenting. Naturally the GLBTs that are abusive parents make headlines, while when heterosexual couples that abuse their children it is so common place you only see it in the police section.

I do agree a male human is quite capable of raising children. I should happen more often.


Sam
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ebrown p
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:56 pm
Thank you Sam. I feel much better now Wink
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dlowan
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 04:57 pm
MyOwnUsername wrote:
dlowan wrote:
Of course, if we do not want homosexuals, we also ought not to allow straight people to conceive or raise children - since nearly 100% of gay people are born to, and raised by, straight people.


you are right. or, you would be right if anyone here would say that it's not okay to give children to homosexual couple because of possibility they will become homosexuals.

if "no they haven't - four of them" was also aimed to me - I was talking about children which is clearly noted in one of previous posts and I think it would be really really nice to read posts before just jumping in out of context. Not that you have to. I just think it would be nice.



Weren't aimed at nobody, MOU - just an observation.

Yeah - nobody used gay kids as a reason for objecting - but I don't actually think there is a rational reason for doing so - I think it is sheer prejudice, based on a personal "uck" factor. So I was simply satirising the prejudice.

I agree, it is difficult for governments re adoption - since the government is in there, having to make laws - and they are swayed by public opinion - not wanting to go too far ahead of it. But the public opinion against it is all silly prejudice - the thing is circular. When do we hop off the pot? When do we say prejudice and discrimination is not ok? That gay couples have kids. Yes, there is prejudice against this - the kids will be subject to some crap, likely - unless they are schooled in enlightened areas (most of my gay friends have their kids in inner city schools). So will kids of any other group against whom there is prejudice - like fat folk, or muslim folk, at present. There ARE issues - but because of the prejudice!!!! Where do we decide no longer to be swayed by it???
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dlowan
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 05:00 pm
It is like, when I was a kid - "You can't marry a black person, the kids willl suffer!"

If nobody ever defies these prejudices, how are they erased?
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MyOwnUsername
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 05:08 pm
generally you are completely right, I just think that level of prejudice against fat people and homosexuals is not same, and that eventual abusing of children would not be same.
But, as I said several times, I would certainly never ban that or propose law against it
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L R R Hood
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 05:12 pm
This thread got rediculous fast!
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Sam1951
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 05:39 pm
After reading all of the posts on this thread, the only reason for GLBT singles or couples to be prevented from raising children is prejudice. The uck factor.

I saw a woman and a pre-teen boy watching a male Ringtailed Lemur industriously grooming his penis. They stood, noses pressed to the habitats glass wall, and kept up a running commentary about how disgusting the Lemur was. I thought about saying, Pardon me for intruding but, if you find this disgusting, why have you been watching for over ten minutes?" (Uck factor)

If you find GLBTs disgusting please do two things.
First, ask yourself why? Are GLBTs really doing anything that is any of your business?
Second, if you do find something to be disgusting, don't stand there staring and making comments. Walk away, then you will not be able to see it any more.

:wink: Sam
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SCoates
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 06:06 pm
Sam, that would cover the issue if children were not involved. There are plenty of people who find homosexuality disgusting, but don't care if it doesn't affect them. This same group DOES care if they percieve an innocent party to be affected.

It is the perception of danger, of whatever sort they conclude, that prevents them from feeling they can ethically ignore the percieved problem.
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Wiyaka
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 06:11 pm
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="L.R.R.Hood"]Sam1951, I do not believe it is genetic. There is no scientific proof of that.

There had been Dutch scientific studies done on the human brains of "transgender or transexual" individuals showing that brains of people like myself have been much more closer to a woman's brain than that of a "normal" man. The size and shape of various parts of the "transgender" brain and that of a woman's are nearly identical.


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Poeple have the choice to be whatever they want to be, and I have the choice to feel however I want to feel about that. I wouldn't stand in their way to do anything that is legal... but if it were up to me, I wouldn't let gay people have children... sorry, that's just my opinion.

I hate to disagree, but if you do the research that same and I have done, you'll find that being as we are is not only scientifically proven, but a genetic factor. Choice is not a consideration.


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I know I'm not the only one who feels that way, but I bet those who agree with me would not want to post it openly.


I agree that may be the case, but I respect your right to have that opinion...as long as it doesn't infringe on my rights as another human. We don't want special rights. We only want to be treated the same as anyone else.

Diversity is wonderful. Imagine a world where everyone agreed on doing things only one way. All art forms would have a limited number of subjects and only certain colors used in the same way. Imagine if Nature did the same thing, one kind of flower and only in one color. Imagine a world with only one kind of tree, not the wide number that we have. We would all were the same style of clothing and same colors. We'd all eat the same food and seasoned the same way. YUCK!

If there wasn't any diversity, there would be no one taller,shorter or skinnier or fatter. We'd all be fair complexioned,blond haired and blue eyed. We would all have to believe the same way, pray the same and disagreement would be punished. Those that didn't fit that group would be eliminated as undesirable. Think about it.

Kids don't come with an owners manual, neither do parents. How do you feel about heterosexual parents that are abusive, alcoholic, drug addicted, or negligent? You have voiced your opinion on gay parenthood. Can you explain why you feel that way? I'm really curious about that.
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SCoates
 
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Reply Sun 6 Jun, 2004 06:17 pm
Remember that show, "My Two Dads"?
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